A WEDDING!

[Duchess]

The cost of a wedding is said to be $31,213.00. Shiiiiiiiit.

I know someone whose wedding cost $24,000.00. I love her so I told her she has shit for brains. It was probably wrong to say that, just because it wouldn't be my choice doesn't mean it's the wrong choice.

Would you or have you spent such a serious amount of money on a wedding?

[Blindgreed1]

The cost of a wedding is said to be $31,213.00. Shiiiiiiiit.

I know someone whose wedding cost $24,000.00. I love her so I told her she has shit for brains. It was probably wrong to say that, just because it wouldn't be my choice doesn't mean it's the wrong choice.

Would you or have you spent such a serious amount of money on a wedding?

No, and no. And I will never get married again. One horrible mistake which I chose to make is enough for a lifetime.

[Clang McFly]

The cost of a wedding is said to be $31,213.00. Shiiiiiiiit.

I know someone whose wedding cost $24,000.00. I love her so I told her she has shit for brains. It was probably wrong to say that, just because it wouldn't be my choice doesn't mean it's the wrong choice.

Would you or have you spent such a serious amount of money on a wedding?

Nope. The way my life is going the only way I'm getting married is drunk at a Vegas wedding chapel.

[ramseycat]

It's stupid. That could be a down payment on a house.

[aussiefriend]

In some 'hoods that would be the cost of a house. I had a low key wedding back in the day. These girls that want to be the centre of attention on their "big day". It is so stupid. If I want to be the centre of attention, I strap on a guitar and get up and sing, but it usually has a purpose, a reason. It's not all about me. I am beginning to think this whole wedding bullshit, is fucked up. The whole bachelor/hens night. Dumb. I have no problem with going on a lovely holiday though.

[SIXFOOTERsez]

Oh hell no, that would have paid for my first house and 3 cars

[FAHQTOO]

I would elope and take the money to Bora Bora...my ultimate destination.

I had a double wedding with my sister and I think my parents shelled out about 3 grand on it. Granted, it was 30 years ago, but it was a double wedding. We paid for the band, booze and reception hall. They paid for the dresses, flowers, food and decorations.

[QueenBee]

Hello no. When we got married, it was my first marriage, at age 48 and his third. I think all told, our wedding cost less than about $2500. That was in 2001. He already had a "good" suit, my dress cost about $150 the rest was the actual wedding costs..invitations (which I made myself, postage, wedding venue. We got married and had reception at a hotel banquet room. The hotel comped out hotel room as part of package. We had buffet dinner, open bar all evening and the cost of the JP who married us. A friend of my maid of honor did the pictures for free, just asked if she could keep the picks on a thumb drive as part of her portfolio, as she was a photography major.

Then turned out not costing us anything except for my dress and the cake. My brother paid for it as his gift. He is 15 years older than me and took on the Father of the Bride role at my request

ETA...flowers were in that cost too

[aussiefriend]

I saw an add for 'Say Yes To The Dress' (I can't watch those shows) and this bride is all teary and says "I'm going to say yes to the dress" and then you get a wide shot, I swear to God, she looked like one of those dolls that you stick the spare toilet roll under in the bathroom. The dress was all poofy and layered like the toilet covered dolls. She was all teary at how beautiful it was, and all you can think is that she needs to put a giant toilet roll under there. True story.

[QueenBee]

Aussie, the mental picture made me laugh out loud. Thanks

[Carsman]

The cost of a wedding is said to be $31,213.00. Shiiiiiiiit.

I know someone whose wedding cost $24,000.00. I love her so I told her she has shit for brains. It was probably wrong to say that, just because it wouldn't be my choice doesn't mean it's the wrong choice.

Would you or have you spent such a serious amount of money on a wedding?

It's all relative. If someone can comfortably afford a wedding costing that much, and or even more, without sacrificing, well then why the hell not. IMO.

If someone is of average income, having to save up, and sacrifice, and even going into debt, to make a $31,000 splash, they should have their heads examined. Most women seem to want a nice wedding, OK. However, being practical with wedding cost, will start them off on the right foot, as there will always be a bigger better more expensive wedding.

[aussiefriend]

Aussie, the mental picture made me laugh out loud. Thanks

I know bloody ridiculous. She thought she was the bomb.

[username]

My parents paid for my first marriage. Based on the location we chose for the reception, I imagine in was pricey.

My second husband wanted a traditional marriage but....my parents were done forking over wedding money (I think they contributed a $1,000). We paid for the rest. All told, it was pretty traditional but I managed to pull it off for around $11,000. That was 20 years ago though!

Yeah, unfortunately I can easily see the cost of a wedding (it's largely based on how many guests you invite...unless the bride has her sites set on $10k gown or something) reaching in to the low to mid $20's. I've never talked with my husband about it but if/when my daughter wants to get married...we'll probably fight about it. He'll want her to have a traditional wedding too whereas, I'd be more inclined to set a budget and tell her to have a very small, intimate get together and a cheap party after and we'll give you the balance towards a house down payment. I'd give her the choice; I don't think my husband would but he's sitting right in front of me so I guess I could actually TALK to him. BRB.

[username]

He always looks at me like I sprouted two heads when I pose these forum questions to him.

Non-committal (he would want to see what the daughter and potential SIL came up with) but also a little bit of..."I don't come from a time when my parents just handed me money...do you know how much money we've already spent on these kids"?

Yeah, yeah. Tell it to the hand...I know. He's right (or at least not wrong). I agree with the "let them come up with an idea and then decide" approach.

[Duchess]

I once received a wedding invitation and enclosed in it was a "wish list". It encompassed all things regarding their honeymoon. They had lived together for awhile so they didn't need the kinds of things that one would register for, noooooo, they wanted us, the guest, to pay for their honeymoon, the enclosed list had things like, couples massage, bottles of champagne, chocolate covered strawberries, a limo, chef/private dining, etc.

[username]

I once received a wedding invitation and enclosed in it was a "wish list". It encompassed all things regarding their honeymoon. They had lived together for awhile so they didn't need the kinds of things that one would register for, noooooo, they wanted us, the guest, to pay for their honeymoon, the enclosed list had things like, couples massage, bottles of champagne, chocolate covered strawberries, a limo, chef/private dining, etc.

That's as tacky, if not tackier, than a money dance. Whoever came up with that sick idea?

[Duchess]

I have no idea. It is so fricken crass. I can't imagine why anyone would think that was in good taste. I cringed reading it and that's not the only one I've received.

[Clang McFly]

I once received a wedding invitation and enclosed in it was a "wish list". It encompassed all things regarding their honeymoon. They had lived together for awhile so they didn't need the kinds of things that one would register for, noooooo, they wanted us, the guest, to pay for their honeymoon, the enclosed list had things like, couples massage, bottles of champagne, chocolate covered strawberries, a limo, chef/private dining, etc.

That's as tacky, if not tackier, than a money dance. Whoever came up with that sick idea?

Men.

I...er...they'd also probably prefer you...er...in the general sense....wore a skimpy bikini during this money dance.