Do you ever blame the victim...

[HairOfTheDog]

It doesn't sound like you're blaming the victim for being violated as much as recognizing that as adults we are all responsible for guarding our own safety, as much as possible. When we neglect that responsibility, we make ourselves even more susceptible to the scum that prey on other people.

Predators can victimize anyone, even the most personally responsible and aware person. Why make oneself an easy target?

If someone fails to guard their own safety and gets victimized by a predator, it doesn't in any way mean that the victim was asking for it or got what they deserved. But, it's a sad fact that sometimes victims put themselves in the role of "easy targets". Undeserving targets, but targets nonetheless. It's frustrating and I think it's normal to ask "why?!".

It's especially frustrating for me when it's a parent who neglects their child or invites scumbags into the child's world and the child becomes victimized. I sometimes loathe and partially blame the parents for making the child vulnerable. But as you noted, the perpetrator always owns the ultimate blame in violating someone else and should be held fully responsible for the crimes committed.