01-08-2013, 04:56 PM
In 2004 (between marriages, but dating my soon-to-be-wife) I was at the bar with my buddy one night. I happened to sit down next to an attractive young lady. We talked for a half hour or so, and she left.
A couple of minutes after she left, another woman came over and sat down next to me. We started talking. She said that she and her girlfriend were going to Mexico the next day, and had rented a hotel room in Mpls for the night (they were from Up Nort).
After another half hour or so, I said I had to get going home. The look on her face was incredulous. She said, "You didn't know that I was planning on taking you back to my hotel room tonight?" I said, 'No, I didn't really pick up on that.' She finished with, "I was wasting my time with you when I could've been working on someone who'd go home with me.'
She was pissed. The only time that I've really been on the other side of the proverbial coin.
I certainly wasn't 'asking' for it with my actions.
I'm never in favor of giving a rapist the benefit of the doubt with the 'asking for it' explanation. It's total bullshit.
A couple of minutes after she left, another woman came over and sat down next to me. We started talking. She said that she and her girlfriend were going to Mexico the next day, and had rented a hotel room in Mpls for the night (they were from Up Nort).
After another half hour or so, I said I had to get going home. The look on her face was incredulous. She said, "You didn't know that I was planning on taking you back to my hotel room tonight?" I said, 'No, I didn't really pick up on that.' She finished with, "I was wasting my time with you when I could've been working on someone who'd go home with me.'
She was pissed. The only time that I've really been on the other side of the proverbial coin.
I certainly wasn't 'asking' for it with my actions.
I'm never in favor of giving a rapist the benefit of the doubt with the 'asking for it' explanation. It's total bullshit.