07-30-2014, 03:35 PM
(07-30-2014, 07:04 AM)Cutz Wrote: I think part of it is cultural bias. I've seen white girls act stupid, or even uncouth, but I never saw a female be quite as crazy and daring someone to hit her until I worked in a black school. There's a difference between a dude who gets drunk and beats his wife and a woman that gets straight up in a dude's face, screaming at him, begging him to hit her, and then slap him in the face and call him a pussy. I think that was the behavior that Stephen was trying to warn against. As unpopular as my comment may be, the feminists fight for equal rights, not 'equal unless it benefits us to hide behind patriarchal values' rights.
I don't think that anyone's argued in favor of women hitting men here, nor that this is a "feminist" or "equal rights" issue. Not all feminists are united in their goals and values in any case.
It's a people thang, for me. Someone's up in your face, you walk away. If they won't let you walk away and they slap you, you might have to put your hands on them to restrain them or slap them back to diffuse the situation. I understand that. That's not the same as knocking out your spouse, over whom you have significant physical advantage, in the course of an argument. Knocking someone unconscious in a domestic dispute is seriously fucked up and dangerous.
Anyway, I don't know if Stephen A was saying what you inferred -- that it's really a black chick thing to get in men's faces and provoke men into physical violence. Maybe you're right and he was trying to say that those crazy bitches should step back before a brother has to haul off and hit them. Maybe. He had a hard time making a coherent point.