Do your children have an expectation of privacy?

[Cracker]

Do you ask your kids before you post their name, likeness, personal information, or personal situations on the Internet?

If your child isn't 18, do you even have the right to post anything about them that could be personally identifying?

Do you identifiy yourself to strangers online and give them information that could lead them to your (and your kids') home? Do you trust people you don't know that much?

I have seen a bunch of this lately and I was just wondering if you ask permission before you do that.

Or do you not even consider the harm you might do your family? Do you not even think about it?

I'm okay with posting pets. They don't care as much.

[Lady Cop]

i know this is not exactly what you are addressing Cracker, but it's an opportunity for me to say something i have said for years online:
i don't think it's safe to post your young childrens' photos on the net. anywhere. there are child pornographers who use those photos. they alter them and defile them in ugly ways.
i posted a girl of 18 in my family last week because i was proud of her, but i also removed the photos shortly afterwards thinking i don't want her showing up in some porn site. i shouldn't have posted her at all.
it's unfortunate when you are proud of your kid, that you have to consider the evil out there.

[username]

No. I wouldn't purposefully post where we live (details) but I don't ask their permission to post a pic.

I'm much more concerned about their online activities (FB etc.) than I am about what I post about them online.

[Cracker]

That's good, user. It is a two-way street. I don't think kids even think about the future ramifications of social networking sites. Colleges and employers google employees/prospective students now. You don't want some stuff popping up detailing your experimentation with drugs and sex.

Do kids think about stuff they are posting about their friends? Once something is out there, you can't control it.

[Duchess]

I wouldn't post pix or speak in anything more than general terms about anyone in my life & I own my own bullshit insofar as anything I've put out there about myself. If people take something they know about me & use it against me, I have no one to blame but myself.

[Cracker]

I have never seen Cowboy. I also don't beg you to post pics of him like someone other nameless and retarded person here.

I relate to some of these folks on a personal level. I might even trust a few. But I don't know all the members here. I know a bunch of people read and never post. Who knows who the fuck they are? I don't. I bet Lady Cop doesn't, either.

Plus, we all know we have troll invasions at times. They play by different rules. Some of you also post on several different boards and there is cross-posting. You lose all control when you do that.

I know WAY too much about some people here, all stuff they posted themselves.

Mock is growing and is a haven for crime folks. Some are crime buffs and some are criminals. Some of you really need to start thinking more.

[Lady Cop]

Cracker: I bet Lady Cop doesn't, either.


not all. but more than they think.
depends on the context and whether i am interested enough to find out.
a few posts in are usually pretty telling.
and i don't let most know that i know.

[Duchess]

I don't know all the members here.

I don't either. I know my core group, those of you that I look upon as Mockers. Some of the sleuths have morphed but only a handful. We have around 500 Members & I know about 30 (more or less) of you.

I should be ashamed, huh.

[JsMom]

i know this is not exactly what you are addressing Cracker, but it's an opportunity for me to say something i have said for years online:
i don't think it's safe to post your young childrens' photos on the net. anywhere. there are child pornographers who use those photos. they alter them and defile them in ugly ways.
i posted a girl of 18 in my family last week because i was proud of her, but i also removed the photos shortly afterwards thinking i don't want her showing up in some porn site. i shouldn't have posted her at all.
it's unfortunate when you are proud of your kid, that you have to consider the evil out there.

Yes, I make a huge mistake by posting some things about my children here and I regret it to the fullest. I cannot take it back now. I can just move forward. But it is truely sick for anyone to attack or alter a childs picture. This world is fucked.

[sally]

I've posted pictures of the kids because I'm stupid and couldn't help myself. I don't do it often though and my son would be pissed if he knew I posted his picture. My daughter doesn't care, however, and the baby doesn't know.

[JsMom]

Noone here has ever seen a picture of my son... now. He is 8. I have only posted the article which did have a picture of them at age 3 and a half.

[LuciferLynn]

I don't put my kids pictures on the internet. They're on fb, but you can only access them if you're on my list and since I only friend people I know personally, I feel ok about it. I never ever ever take pictures of them in bathing suits or anything. People are fuckin sick.

[ramseycat]

I've never put pics of my kids on here. I have very few on FB as well. My page is marked private but you never know. But if someone wants to kidnap one of my kids, have at it. They are both very tall and big. Size 12 feet! I always told them if anyone ever tried to grab you, scream as loud as you can and fight them tooth and nail. OH and hit them in the balls LOL

I have never and would never put any of their private business on FB. Their achievement? Football? Caught a big fish at the lake? Yes. When I was part of a mom's board years ago, we did share a lot of private things about our kids. I learned my lesson from Greeneyes. She took things we all posted and twisted them up and used them against us under one of her many personalities. Some people on THIS forum like to go back and read her stuff and use it in the present. Even though she came on here and admitted she lied and what she did to all of her "friends" on the board.

This is the electronic age. And no matter how much we all would like to think our stuff isn't out there it is. My mother still pays all her bills with a check and a stamp. She doesn't want her info on the internet. Sorry Ma, but your stuff is. She wasn't to happy when I told her that we have access to many sites that we can look up just about anything on anyone. We are not supposed to use them for personal business and I don't. My mother was all pissed off and how dare we use those sites... I told her sometimes we have to. We have a hit and run or a DWI and the person skps town, we have to be able to find them. We use that info to break up fraud rings as well. It's all about how responsible you are with the info.

[QueenBee]

This is a slight bit OT..but when my niece was about 8 years old (she is 25 and married now) I had her over for a weekend visit. This was back in the early 90's..the interwebs were fairly new to me, and I was actually on AOL..not a lot to choose from then.
Anyhow..I created her a user name for the weekend..put the parental controls on so she could not wander outside of AOL, and was in AOL kids. I stayed nearby while she was on. At one point, in a "kids-only" chat room I peeked over her shoulder seconds before she sent out her full name, and where she lived. I had given her a generic username..and I stopped her from sending it out. She questioned it, but agreed. You never know who is hovering around the kid rooms.

[username]

Do kids think about stuff they are posting about their friends? Once something is out there, you can't control it.

I try to monitor it and fortunately, I have family members who are way more active on FB than me keeping an eye on her. My SIL sent me a link to something someone had posted on my daughter's wall. It wasn't about my daughter but the language was beyond foul and it just looked like an ugly, black stain on her wall. I sent her a Facebook pm and told her I didn't think the post reflected well on her and I'd like her to remove it. I didn't demand she do it, but she did it right away regardless.

Plus I have that monitoring software...muwahaha.

My niece just graduated from Berkeley. She always tried to keep her FB clean but still, she deleted her old account and started a new one now that she's stepping out in to the working world. Smart.

[Cynical Ninja]

I posted a couple of pictures of my daughter in the Mock Elders section here a while ago but that was it, my daughter isn't allowed on facebook or any other social networking site. Shes got her friends to play with she doesn't to be on any of that shit until she is older.

[ramseycat]

I posted a couple of pictures of my daughter in the Mock Elders section here a while ago but that was it, my daughter isn't allowed on facebook or any other social networking site. Shes got her friends to play with she doesn't to be on any of that shit until she is older.

Is FB as big in your country as it is here? it seems everyone here puts their every movement on it. Especially the kids. They are on it ²⁴⁄₇ with their smart phones.

[Cynical Ninja]

Is FB as big in your country as it is here?

Pretty much yes, Facebook and Twitter are the most popular.

I have a facebook page that haven't looked at or updated for about 2 years, I have a dozen friends all old friends from high school and college.

I never go on or have anything to do with Twitter.

[ramseycat]

Yes Twitter. People are living their lives on Twitter. Celebrities and regular people. It's ridiculous.

[Ma Huang Sor]

I've posted pictures of the kids because I'm stupid and couldn't help myself. I don't do it often though and my son would be pissed if he knew I posted his picture. My daughter doesn't care, however, and the baby doesn't know.

afa the pic I posted, my daughter has a shutterfly account with dozens of pics of her the baby the hubby me and the wife everyone. That shit's been smeared all over everywhere and chopped in the worst ways you can imagine. :shrugs: That's where all my pi came from to begin with. I didn't ask permission and now I can't do anything about it, but fb, shutterfly and photobucket insure that if a pic of you is taken by anyone with an internet connection, it's fair game.

Personally I don't really give a shit. It's all been done to death on me. Anyone wants to come visit w/o my permission they'll meet my dog, and my gun not necessarily in that order.