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I used to think sexy was all about looks and to be fair, I have been out with some stunning women. Unfortunately, too many of them had more or less zero personality.

However, I too have changed in the way I think as I've gotten older and now I find personality and what's on the inside to be far more important than what a person looks like.

Beautiful looks are mostly only transient in any case and at the end of the day, it's what's on the inside that counts.

What a great topic, Dutch.

Initial physical attraction is one thing, but I have a short story about how perceptions can change.

When I was bartending at one particular joint, I had a set of regulars of a divorced couple and their son. They all worked together in a real estate business the father and son co-owned and the mother was the secretary. Brian is the son.

My first reaction to him was, Meh...he ain't ugly, but he's no prize. Not someone I would look twice at. His dad was a stone cold, dead nuts, flat-outASSHOLE.

But Brian was friendly, funny, polite and a gentleman without being a schmuck about it. A nice balance. As I got to know him more, I liked him more. We even went out a couple times - strictly platonic as he was married and I was involved. We just cut loose and had fun. And as time passed, he became more and more attractive to me. It got to the point that when I would see his car pull up at the bar, my heart would give a tiny little skip, and I would covertly watch him as he talked to the rest of the group. He ended up being quite yummy in my eyes!

Sexy is paying attention, not pretending to pay attention. Sexy is being real; not putting on some bullshit front or trying to impress with some outdated line. Sexy is honesty. Sexy is a conversation you can have without ever having to say a word out loud. Sexy is not patronizing or condescending. Sexy is not sexist.

Sexy, to me, is simply making me want to see what it is like to kiss you. Sometimes that is purely physical-based, other times it is because of something psychological (personality, a challenge due to your type, an unknown quantity, etc.). It's a mixed lot to me.

Howard_hopkinso Wrote:I used to think sexy was all about looks and to be fair, I have been out with some stunning women. Unfortunately, too many of them had more or less zero personality.

However, I too have changed in the way I think as I've gotten older and now I find personality and what's on the inside to be far more important than what a person looks like.

Beautiful looks are mostly only transient in any case and at the end of the day, it's what's on the inside that counts.

Translation:

I'm too old and crusty to get babes so I've adapted and now I get turned on by what book they are reading.

Duchess Wrote:Sin, have you ever met a seemingly hot looking guy & the minute he opens his mouth that theory is shot to hell because he's such an asshole or he is really dumb, a far greater sin in my mind.

Many, many times, Dutch. More times than I can count. A huge percentage of the hot ones have the brains of a bag of hair and are completely worthless.

Heh...this reminds me of a guy I dated for a little while. Hot as sin, built like a brick shithouse and had a weenie the size of my middle finger and hated sex. A friend of mine who is male and has been around through many boyfriends of mine thinks he was a fag. That had never occurred to me, but I'd wager he is right. Thank GOD the ex wrapped it all 4 times I talked him into fucking me. God only knows where else that tiny little cock had been.....::scared::

Sinister Wrote:What a great topic, Dutch.

Initial physical attraction is one thing, but I have a short story about how perceptions can change.

When I was bartending at one particular joint, I had a set of regulars of a divorced couple and their son. They all worked together in a real estate business the father and son co-owned and the mother was the secretary. Brian is the son.

My first reaction to him was, Meh...he ain't ugly, but he's no prize. Not someone I would look twice at. His dad was a stone cold, dead nuts, flat-outASSHOLE.

But Brian was friendly, funny, polite and a gentleman without being a schmuck about it. A nice balance. As I got to know him more, I liked him more. We even went out a couple times - strictly platonic as he was married and I was involved. We just cut loose and had fun. And as time passed, he became more and more attractive to me. It got to the point that when I would see his car pull up at the bar, my heart would give a tiny little skip, and I would covertly watch him as he talked to the rest of the group. He ended up being quite yummy in my eyes!

Sexy is paying attention, not pretending to pay attention. Sexy is being real; not putting on some bullshit front or trying to impress with some outdated line. Sexy is honesty. Sexy is a conversation you can have without ever having to say a word out loud. Sexy is not patronizing or condescending. Sexy is not sexist.

Got my vote. Not only for the story but what it means and this last, but so important statement

Quote:Sexy is not sexist.

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You bet your ass it has been boy............ Now sit down and take notes

Great thread Duchess......

I will let you all know my thoughts later. It will be true and for some a reply to jump on and raze......as if I could care.

I think this is a very serious question, be difficult for me to get negative. My thouhgt of course.

I have always found a womens attitiude as sexy as their looks or body. If someone points out an attractive famous woman and asks me if I find her sexy or not I usually say I would have to see her being interviewed first so I could see how she speaks, moves and holds herself.

I have courted a couple of real head turners in the past, unfortunately they both had zero personality and conversation with them was pointless, unless it was about money or clothes.

Ordinary Peephole Wrote:I have courted a couple of real head turners in the past, unfortunately they both had zero personality and conversation with them was pointless, unless it was about money or clothes.

Oh puke. That's the worst; when you get trapped into spending time with some materialistic bimbo. It's revolting to me how many of my gender are all about clothes, or the latest fashion trend, or are stressing about their next hair cut.....for fuck's sake, I haven't had my hair cut in about 3 years, my fingernails never see polish, I wear what I'm comfortable in and couldn't give a flying fuck about what the latest trend is. Women who worry about shit like that are about as deep as a coat of paint.

Sinister Wrote:

Ordinary Peephole Wrote:I have courted a couple of real head turners in the past, unfortunately they both had zero personality and conversation with them was pointless, unless it was about money or clothes.

Oh puke. That's the worst; when you get trapped into spending time with some materialistic bimbo. It's revolting to me how many of my gender are all about clothes, or the latest fashion trend, or are stressing about their next hair cut.....for fuck's sake, I haven't had my hair cut in about 3 years, my fingernails never see polish, I wear what I'm comfortable in and couldn't give a flying fuck about what the latest trend is. Women who worry about shit like that are about as deep as a coat of paint.

Honestly you wouldn't believe how dull one of them was, she was a stunning, half Thai girl with a body like a porno actress, in the bedroom it was heaven, anywhere but the bedroom was living hell. I couldn't believe any woman on earth could spend three hours talking about a pair of shoes she had seen on her way back from work, three fucking hours! and dim?, she knew nothing about anything like newbietard but at least newbietard knows something about something, coins.

She was an embarrassment to be seen in public with she was so witless, if she saw for instance someone with a disability or disfigurement she would point at them and say things like "look at that guys face!" at the top of her voice.

The hair on the back of my neck is standing up now just thinking about her.

Middle Finger Wrote:

Howard_hopkinso Wrote:I used to think sexy was all about looks and to be fair, I have been out with some stunning women. Unfortunately, too many of them had more or less zero personality.

However, I too have changed in the way I think as I've gotten older and now I find personality and what's on the inside to be far more important than what a person looks like.

Beautiful looks are mostly only transient in any case and at the end of the day, it's what's on the inside that counts.

Translation:

I'm too old and crusty to get babes so I've adapted and now I get turned on by what book they are reading.

I might have known you'd come out with some mildly funny shit like that.

However, you really must stop judging others by what turns you on. I think we are all well aware of what gets you all excited.

To me it's one thing to lust for a man and a totally different thing to think he is sexy.
[color="blue"]The depth of his insight and vision[/color] really pushes the sexy meter for me.

If a man is just typical (i.e. work, pay bills, balance the check book, etc.) then no matter how HOT he is or how much his body turns me on, he wouldn't be "sexy" in the sense that I view it.

Now put those two qualities together and you get a very vivid idea of what makes me savor the sexy of a man [Sinister met him last Friday, lol]

::bigg::

Sexy is when she is wearing a white singlet and boylegs and sits you on an old wooden chair under a big old tree in nothing but your jeans and slowly shaves your face with a cutthroat razor...

Beautiful eyes, that have a spark behind them.
A real laugh and someone is willing to laugh until they cry.
Confidence with their body and overall personality. Not cockiness, but confidence.

I hope no one minds that I blew the dust off this thread...

Sexy is spooning ~ My favorite way to sleep, my bottomnestled in his "lap".