(02-16-2023, 10:49 AM)MirahM Wrote:

(02-16-2023, 08:50 AM)Duchess Wrote: We like Clang just the way he is.

Exactly

Yes, you are quite right. One of my default settings of who i am is that every day i try and improve myself, which i dont see as a problem. It is a problem when i automatically think people are the same, they are not. It doesnt make sense to me, but there you go. Its a massive problem really, when i think of my ex wife, for gods sake. When your with me your on trial.

She failed. Look at it from my point of view, if you can improve a cooking technique, save money in whatever way, develop short cuts, or whatever.

But choose not too.

How fucking mad is that. Clang, i command you to buy lavender after shave, do it now. Duchess, when it comes to it, i can improve your technique...." wink".

Only kidding. I have control problems, but only for the better.

(02-18-2023, 09:02 AM)Piglet Wrote: Yes, you are quite right.  One  of my default settings of who i am is that every day i try and improve myself, which i dont see as a problem.  It is a problem when i automatically think people are the same, they are not.  It doesnt make sense to me, but there you go.      Its a massive problem really, when i think of my ex wife, for gods sake.    When your with me your on trial. 

She failed.  Look at it from my point of view, if you can improve a cooking technique,  save money  in whatever way,  develop short cuts, or whatever.

But choose not too.

How fucking mad is that.  Clang, i command you to buy lavender after shave, do it now.  Duchess, when it comes to it, i can improve your technique...." wink".

Only kidding.  I have control problems, but only for the better.

I plan on keeping the beard at least until my birthday....why the fuck would I buy aftershave?

Piggy's obsession with lavender is really quite telling.

Aha Piglet! If you want to improve then I suggest picking up some zen techniques and learn acceptance.

I suggest reading " Don't take your life personally" by Ajahn Sumedho

I need to do something. In my defence Clang did present the problem of wanting a girlfriend, hence advice, not given otherwise. Someone once said that to keep doing the same thing expecting a different result is a form of madness.

What this means is that Clang needs to change, what hes doing now isnt working. It is crazy to want a girlfriend and then not, at least, start working towards it.

Has Clang done that?, no. Getting out of your comfort zone is needed. Is Clang going to get a girlfriend doing the same thing over and over.? No. Getting out of your comfort zone ia always required, if you dont, you become an old shoe at the bottom of a river.

I am completely happy with who i am, everyone who has contact with me benefits, strangely, like here, i dont.

If his discomfort at not having a girl was bad, he would have done something about it. a long time ago. Hes old now, an old dog. Indeed Mirah, acceptance on Clangs part is needed, that he will NEVER get a girl.

If i have a problem, i solve it, not wallow in helplessness., which is the worst of all worlds. All i want is for Clang to be happy. End of.

Am i paradoxing Clang?, you decide. And as for myself, stepping away from a fools errand is required. Lavender is a wonderful scent Tiki, suitable for both sexes. I regard all your posts with sceticism, worthy of your title, sincerity faker. Everything you post is potentially fake.

I dont know which is which. Like this. Male or female?, whatever you reply, it will be fake. Mister.

I think a friend with benefits at first, preferably female would be best.

(02-19-2023, 09:16 AM)Piglet Wrote: I need to do something.  In my defence Clang did present the problem of wanting a girlfriend, hence advice, not given otherwise.    Someone once said that  to keep doing the same thing expecting a different result is a form of madness.

What this means is that Clang needs to change, what hes doing now isnt working.  It is crazy to want a girlfriend and then not, at least, start working towards it.

Has Clang done that?, no.  Getting out of your comfort zone is needed.  Is Clang going to get a girlfriend doing the same thing over and over.?  No.  Getting out of your comfort zone ia always required, if you dont, you become an old shoe at the bottom of a river.

I am completely happy with who i am, everyone who has contact with me benefits, strangely, like here, i dont.

If his discomfort at not having a girl was bad, he would have done something about it. a long time ago.  Hes old now, an old dog.  Indeed Mirah, acceptance on Clangs part is needed, that he will NEVER get a girl.

If i have a problem, i solve it, not wallow in helplessness., which is the worst of all worlds.    All i want is for Clang to be happy.  End of.

Am i paradoxing Clang?, you decide.    And as for myself, stepping away from a fools errand is required.  Lavender is a wonderful scent Tiki, suitable for both sexes.  I regard all your posts with sceticism, worthy of your title, sincerity faker.      Everything you post is potentially fake.

I dont know which is which.  Like this.  Male or female?, whatever you reply, it will be fake.  Mister.

I've been outside my comfort zone for many years now. I sometimes wonder though if not happier, I would have been better off continuing my hermit lifestyle.

I want a girlfriend but I still want to enjoy a modicum of independence. I want a date night in and/or with my girlfriend and a night out with the boys. I want it all. Am I asking too much?

(02-18-2023, 01:51 PM)MirahM Wrote: Aha Piglet! If you want to improve then I suggest . . .  learn acceptance.

AMEN, sister!!!

But then again, darling Piggy . . . it's so much easier to take everyone else's inventory than to invest and replenish what is lacking in yours.  Isn't it, dearest? 

(02-19-2023, 04:26 PM)Clang McFly Wrote:  I want a date night in and/or with my girlfriend and a night out with the boys. I want it all. Am I asking too much?

No, you're not. All couples should have their own interests aside from what they have together as a couple. Don't ever hook up with anyone whose only interest is in you & what you're doing.

(02-19-2023, 04:55 PM)BlueTiki Wrote: darling Piggy . . .

Isn't it, dearest? 

You never call me darling or dearest.   

No more wire coat hangers, cunt! How's that?

(02-19-2023, 05:18 PM)Duchess Wrote:

(02-19-2023, 04:26 PM)Clang McFly Wrote:  I want a date night in and/or with my girlfriend and a night out with the boys. I want it all. Am I asking too much?

No, you're not. All couples should have their own interests aside from what they have together as a couple. Don't ever hook up with anyone whose only interest is in you & what you're doing.

(02-19-2023, 06:13 PM)sally Wrote: No more wire coat hangers, cunt! How's that?

Wire coat hangers are awful for your clothes. Wood only! 

I'm a wire coat hanger snob.  

(02-19-2023, 06:02 PM)Duchess Wrote:

(02-19-2023, 04:55 PM)BlueTiki Wrote: darling Piggy . . .

Isn't it, dearest? 

You never call me darling or dearest.   

(02-19-2023, 06:45 PM)Duchess Wrote:

(02-19-2023, 06:13 PM)sally Wrote: No more wire coat hangers, cunt! How's that?

Wire coat hangers are awful for your clothes. Wood only! 

I'm a wire coat hanger snob.  

Well then we should call you Mommy Dearest.

If you youtube mommy dearest no more wire hangers, that is literally how my husband acts. Not over wire hangers, but gutter hangers.

(02-19-2023, 06:02 PM)Duchess Wrote: You never call me darling or dearest.   

And I've never sent a pair of PajamaGrams, to you, for Christmas.

Ahhhh . . . Toledo good times!

It isnt about generalisations tiki, Clang is of the type that needs someone holding his feet to the fire, he has said so himself. He is like his father, and i have become the father he never had.

And you are right that helpers lack something in their lives, generally. I am thinking about that now and have come up with some sort of rampant gagging female who will leave me speechless as my partner is ill. Personally i have bad faults, as described, plus a Mirah fault, that i care too much. The thought that i never have is " whats in this for me". For clang to get a girl would please me immensely.

On the really bad side, there is the door slam, i can cut people off permanently in a second, when im driven to distraction. The worst genocidal maniacs are of my type, which i have felt, that murderousness.

And what of you tiki. ? You are an introvert, obviously a thinker. What are your faults? Not that i would believe a word.

Whats all that stuff about coat hangers about?

Clang needs a colonoscopy, Piglet. Do you do colonoscopies?

(02-21-2023, 10:17 AM)rothschild Wrote: Piglet. Do you do colonoscopies?

Just because he has his head up his ass, it doesn't qualify him as a proficient for the general public.