the 2014 trivial drivel thread

[Maggot]

It's gonna be OK.......There there.

[ramseycat]

At the urgent care. Bronchitis again. Every fucking year at this time. And I don't even smoke. Blurgh

[Duchess]

Are you coughing your brains out? That's how it always begins for me. CoughCoughCough. I bark like a dog.

[ramseycat]

Yep. Coughing my brains out. But it's a sinus infection, not bronchitis. And my blood pressure wax 142/97. Freakin stress.

[username]

He's still resisting the nook idea, huh?

All the things I admired about him when we got married; his self confidence, his certain moral compass blah, blah, blah have all come back to bite me in the ass in the form of arrogance and a COMPLETE inability to admit when he's wrong. My kids call him Mr. Perfect.

I pointed out to him last night that his daughter can't possibly learn to accept her own flaws when he struggles so damn hard to appear infallible all the time. I'm the only one in this family that freely admits I'm completely messed up in the head...frequently. It gets old after awhile watching your husband just agree with you time and time again. I've quietly waited for him to get honest about his own foibles (such as largely being an absentee father to our kids for the first 13 years of their lives) but I can see it's not going to happen without some help on my end. Consequently, I've decided to skip my meds for awhile and stir things up a bit. Hrumph.

[HairOfTheDog]

Sounds like a good plan, user. Let him have it!

But........you do realize that your funny feisty fierceness is probably part of what attracts him to you, right?

Bastard -- even when he's in the dog house, he's a winner.

[username]

Sounds like a good plan, user. Let him have it!

But........you do realize that your funny feisty fierceness is probably part of what attracts him to you, right?

Bastard -- even when he's in the dog house, he's a winner.

He wasn't laughing last night. He sounded like he was on the verge of a coronary. This is going to hurt him much more than it hurts me. I've been quiet for a long time waiting for everyone to come clean in their own way but it's not happening. My husband "checked out" years ago (now he's back in which is good), my daughter has her issues but she also breaks things in the house and goes in to violent rages when she feels out of control (but shhhhhhhhhhh, she and my husband don't seem to want to talk about that stuff)...

The end result is I look like the only nut in this bag of almonds. Fuck that. Everybody--out of the closet!!! Right now!!!

[HairOfTheDog]

It's frustrating when the fact that you take personal responsibility is like an invitation to some to load all their baggage on your shoulders. I know.

Denial runs pretty deep in part of my family too. But, I'm sure it's more trying when that river is running through your own home.

Anyway, it's clear how much you love your can of assorted nuts -- I hope your plan pans out, user.

[aussiefriend]

User, projection going on on their part. Not wanting to own their own shit. You need to be defensive and not own any of it. There are alliances making their reality more valid. Hope im right on this one.

[aussiefriend]

Don't skip meds unless you have an appt to talk to someone. You need support through the process. Even just a therapist who can give you non bias feedback

[Midwest Spy]

User, you said your husband had checked out years ago (but is back now).

How do you know for sure that he's back?

[aussiefriend]

You idiot mws he has been passive lazyarse particpant she has called him up for duty

[username]

User, you said your husband had checked out years ago (but is back now).

How do you know for sure that he's back?

He checked out by not wanting to be bothered if he was playing PlayStation, for example. My daughter and I could literally be at each other's throats and if I called him for a little assistance he either didn't respond OR he was pissed off about being inconvenienced. He wanted a 50's, perfect family. He arrives home from work, all the kids are sweet and behaved, his wife greets him with a huge smile and dinner...all that shit. The reality of twins (and especially one with issues) was more than he could handle. He also checked out by participating in his hobbies (karate, before that rugby) 4 or so evenings per week as well as on the weekends. He just wasn't there. Even if he was there he wasn't here. *scratches head*

Anywhoooo, he's way more involved now. He had to get involved when my daughter really took a turn for the worse. I was in the process of a nervous breakdown myself so he was forced to step up.

But of course now I carry all the blame in the family because I was largely a single parent during all this crap! That's what he needs to come clean about. His own selfishness and his neglect. I've already acknowledged my numerous faults--in front of my daughter, her therapists and anyone else I thought needed to know if it would help her. And he just sits there quietly. I think he honestly believes he is/was a perfect parent or something.

I don't know but I'm sick of it.



Time to get in shape for dating.

[username]

It's official. I'm a nigger. I bought this bag and a black Coach wallet to go with it the other day.

[Duchess]

I felt that way too when I got my Coach. It's still sitting in its dust bag.

[ramseycat]

I felt that way too when I got my Coach. It's still sitting in its dust bag.

Bitch.

[ramseycat]

I'm sitting here waiting to hear that a dear friend has died. She lives in Ohio and has ALS. She's down to her final hours. My heart is breaking for her three boys. She is such an amazing mom. ALS is a shitty way to go.

[Midwest Spy]

User, thanks for being so forthcoming.

I can't believe he'd get 4 nights out a week to do his things instead of parenting. I know a ton of men do that, but I've not done that personally.

I'm glad he seems more engaged. Kids need their dads to be involved. Hope he comes clean and admits his faults for all of you. Home will be much better.

[username]

I'm sitting here waiting to hear that a dear friend has died. She lives in Ohio and has ALS. She's down to her final hours. My heart is breaking for her three boys. She is such an amazing mom. ALS is a shitty way to go.

I had a friend die of that last year. He was 51 or so. Worst way to die, ever. I'm not sure how bad his actual death was but God damn, he spent at least a year and a half in his body with only his brain fully capable. That sucks.

[username]

User, thanks for being so forthcoming.

I can't believe he'd get 4 nights out a week to do his things instead of parenting. I know a ton of men do that, but I've not done that personally.

I'm glad he seems more engaged. Kids need their dads to be involved. Hope he comes clean and admits his faults for all of you. Home will be much better.

I've never considered myself needy and God knows, I went in to our marriage not wanting to be the whole "ball and chain" thing. I've encouraged him to pursue his interests/hobbies. You'd think that if someone has the freedom to do that, they'll be a happier person when they are home, right? But he pushed it. And what REALLY fries my chops, all these years along, is when he was here he STILL seemingly felt inconvenienced by the demands on his time. Like somehow he was owed perfect children and a perfect life. Gah!!! I can't tell you how many times I've heard "you need to tell Ryan [insert whatever]...You need to make sure Rachael [insert whatever]". WTF? Tell them yourself, dad!!! Jesus. I stopped that a couple of years ago but we operated like that for a long time.

This has been eating at me for awhile. Clearly. I'm shooting my wad now though. Stand back or risk getting it in the eye!! *twerk, twerk*