12-27-2011, 07:58 PM
Ramsey- divorce is usually an ugly thing, made uglier when children are in the middle of it.
I've been on both sides, as a child of divorce, and then, of course, going through one myself.
Both ends suck. The good news, speaking from my own personal experience and now having watched my 18-year old, is that kids are pretty resilient. If they have at least one (hopefully more) role model that is loving, kind, considerate, hard-working, etc., they can come out of it very, very well. Boys fare better than girls from my experience.
I wish you the best. If he's truly a total asshole, then they're better off being away from him until they're 18, and then they can decide if they'd like to revive the relationship.
I've been on both sides, as a child of divorce, and then, of course, going through one myself.
Both ends suck. The good news, speaking from my own personal experience and now having watched my 18-year old, is that kids are pretty resilient. If they have at least one (hopefully more) role model that is loving, kind, considerate, hard-working, etc., they can come out of it very, very well. Boys fare better than girls from my experience.
I wish you the best. If he's truly a total asshole, then they're better off being away from him until they're 18, and then they can decide if they'd like to revive the relationship.