The reason I am so pissy

[imsuchawildflower]

any parent who shows no care, concern, support either practical or emotional, will be old, cold and lonely one day. fuck him, write him off, the kids will decide for themselves as they grow up.
the thing with kids is they think if daddy is bad and doesn't care about me, i must be lacking or bad too. deep inside, even if they can't verbalize it.
the parent who is raising them needs to rise above the neglect and keep his/her fury, rage and hurt to themselves. it's too big a burden for children.


so there is my nauseating opinion. Christ, i'm at FG.

I agree LC.
My Dad paid his child support until my sister and I were 21.
Once we turned 18, he paid it to us directly. He never missed an
opportunity to send a gift, to call, send a note (even if it only said
I love you) or to have his visitation even though he was 3 states away.
He kept us on his insurance and we went to the dentist every year,
got new glasses every year, and he bought our school clothes.
He made an effort to let us know we were important to him...
important enough to NEVER have said one bad word against my
mother or make NOT ONE snide remark about her...even to this day.
She, on the other hand, never missed an opportunity to berate my
Dad in front of us, use us against him, threaten us with him as if
he were some sort of monster and degrade us for loving him.
I know it was hard for my mother to raise us, as it costs ALOT
fucking more money than what any child support would cover...
If my Dad had still been married to my mother, it would have cost
him a hell of a lot more money to raise us for sure.

As an adult, I figured it all out, just like LC said these children will.
I have the utmost respect for my Dad. I asked him once, why he
never would say anything bad about my mother when she obviously
deserved it, and was so mean towards him to us....his simple response
was, that she is the mother of my children. How could I tell you I love
you and say anything bad about the other half that you are.

They will figure it out on their own, and will make choices accordingly,
just like I did, and just like so many others have.