SPANKIN'

[HairOfTheDog]

Kids don't live in fear if you pop them on the ass a few times when they do something dangerous or completely disrespectful. Spanking, two or three licks, is not a beating. Some kids never act out. Some kids do. Having one policy to cover every single situation, and every child, doesn't work.

I worked with POS kids that had no respect for themselves, their parents, or others. I refuse to have kids like that myself.

People are afraid to be parents now. They want to be friends instead. Ask Maytee how that works out IRL.

I consider spankings to be fear-based discpline; the goal is to discourage the child from repeating the same behavior because they are afraid of being hit (even if it's not that hard). I agree not all children react the same way to any form of discipline and there is no one-size-fits-all solution. Maybe spankings are the most effective solution for some parents and some children under some conditions; probably so. I think physical discipline should be a last resort if it's going to be used, but I never used it. Not because I think swats/spanks are wrong for everyone or that every child that's spanked will be ruled by fear to some degree, but because I didn't want my family to fear being hit. They mostly feared disappointing me instead (though sometimes in their early teens they didn't give a shit about disappointing me at all).

When they were toddlers, a yell or a very harsh look worked well because it was rare and they took note. I can think of a few times when they were a little older that a good spanking might have been more effective than restriction, debate or guilt; just couldn't do it. But, not my place to consider anyone else wrong for doing so if it wasn't abusive and the child was told why what they did was wrong and why they were being swatted/spanked (with very little physical pain involved).