03-01-2012, 08:35 PM
My grandmother suffered greatly. When she was diagnosed with cancer, the doctor gave her 6 months. She lived 4 years. She suffered everyone of those years. By the time she finally passed, she didn't even look human. She was incoherent, first from the pain, then from the drugs to help the pain. I wondered all the time why we allowed it. I felt it was selfish of us. We were keeping her alive, not for her, but for our sakes. She wasn't living, she was existing, suffering physically, emotionally...she couldn't eat on her own. Her children changed her adult diapers, an indignity she never would have wanted had she been able to protest it. We were against putting her in a home, knowing she wanted to pass at home, just as my grandfather had, who also suffered a great deal, unnecessarily so, in my opinion. They never did anything to anyone, why did their last moments on earth need to be filled with pain and confusion and indignity? My grandfather begged us to kill him. He was out of his mind with pain. I was 8 when he passed, 28 when gramma passed. I wont have my children do that, watch me suffer. You wouldn't watch your dog or cat, why watch a family member? Maybe its because of my experience, but I feel very strongly about it.
Just shut up. Just shut the fuck up right now.