03-26-2012, 06:00 PM
I do think that in many cases, the families of the perpetrators are often victims themselves - of course, not to the extent of the primary victim.
Take the wife of the BTK killer...she knew her husband as a loving husband, a good father, a church deacon, etc. And then to discover that the reality she knew was all a sham ... I don't know how she could ever trust anyone again.
Years ago here, a young prostitute was found dead by the side of a road. It turned out a bank vice president had picked up this young woman and taken her back to the family home (while his wife was away with the kids at a scouting event), and had drowned the woman. There's the shame and embarrassment, the betrayal, the trust issues mentioned above. And the children of this man...how hard it must be as 10 and 12 year old children to cope with the knowledge that your father murdered someone.
I knew a woman who hired a hit man to kill her husband (the hit man was successful). This woman was more than an acquaintance but less than a friend to me. Finding out she had done that hit me hard for a couple of years. How could I not have seen the evil in this woman? It made me question my judgement about people and made me suspicious of people's intentions.
Take the wife of the BTK killer...she knew her husband as a loving husband, a good father, a church deacon, etc. And then to discover that the reality she knew was all a sham ... I don't know how she could ever trust anyone again.
Years ago here, a young prostitute was found dead by the side of a road. It turned out a bank vice president had picked up this young woman and taken her back to the family home (while his wife was away with the kids at a scouting event), and had drowned the woman. There's the shame and embarrassment, the betrayal, the trust issues mentioned above. And the children of this man...how hard it must be as 10 and 12 year old children to cope with the knowledge that your father murdered someone.
I knew a woman who hired a hit man to kill her husband (the hit man was successful). This woman was more than an acquaintance but less than a friend to me. Finding out she had done that hit me hard for a couple of years. How could I not have seen the evil in this woman? It made me question my judgement about people and made me suspicious of people's intentions.