04-04-2012, 03:27 PM
Tommie, if you feel like the new gal is starting to react in ways similar to the ex, perhaps it's not a case of all women being game players and not wanting an intelligent man. Doesn't seem that your intelligence has been an issue, based on your brief recap. Sounds more like the first gal was saying that it wasn't enough of a challenge or maybe she doubted your sincerity and thought you were agreeing for agreement's sake. Or, she could just be one of those people (non-gender specific) that only wants the other person when the other person takes a walk. Better to keep walking with those types, as you did, in my opinion.
Personally, if I'm hearing the same thing from different men, I'm not automatically assuming it's a problem with men in general. I'm looking at myself first (as hard as that is). Sometimes, disconnects can be attributed to differences in how the sexes feel or think, but I think alot of the dynamics in an intimate relationship have to do with compatability and similar relationship goals between the two people involved. Are you sure that these gals are looking for "happily ever after" with you or anyone? If they're not and you are assuming that they should feel a clock ticking to secure the deal, could be a little projection that they're feeling and rejecting.
Just throwing some things out there; may not apply to your situation at all.
Hope it all works out - you seem like a catch to me...
Personally, if I'm hearing the same thing from different men, I'm not automatically assuming it's a problem with men in general. I'm looking at myself first (as hard as that is). Sometimes, disconnects can be attributed to differences in how the sexes feel or think, but I think alot of the dynamics in an intimate relationship have to do with compatability and similar relationship goals between the two people involved. Are you sure that these gals are looking for "happily ever after" with you or anyone? If they're not and you are assuming that they should feel a clock ticking to secure the deal, could be a little projection that they're feeling and rejecting.
Just throwing some things out there; may not apply to your situation at all.
Hope it all works out - you seem like a catch to me...