04-06-2012, 10:50 AM
IRL aside from four deeply loved and trusted people with whom I sometimes share personal thoughts and feelings, my privacy "wall" (as it's been referred to by others) is quite solid. I've had more than a couple of developing relationships where the person wanted to spill all of their personal stuff all at once or in stages. I really don't mind listening to anyone that I like enough to be engaging with in the first place. No problem.
Sometimes the other person then automatically expects me to share all of my personal stuff in return, and he/she gets disappointed when that doesn't happen. I'll share some things, other things just don't belong outside of my heart and head and that's where they'll stay. If the other person accepts that when it's explained, the relationship continues with differences respected. If they keep pushing to climb over the wall as if keeping some things private is an "issue" (and usually after some attempt to guilt trip the fuck outta me), I just move along.
On the internet, all kinds of people sharing all kinds of deeply personal shit (some fact, some fiction), probably for all kinds of reasons. Read it or not, comment or not, scroll right past it... No real disappointment and no guilt trips (except for the rare virtual asshole who expects too much and can't respect boundaries). Perfect.
Sometimes the other person then automatically expects me to share all of my personal stuff in return, and he/she gets disappointed when that doesn't happen. I'll share some things, other things just don't belong outside of my heart and head and that's where they'll stay. If the other person accepts that when it's explained, the relationship continues with differences respected. If they keep pushing to climb over the wall as if keeping some things private is an "issue" (and usually after some attempt to guilt trip the fuck outta me), I just move along.
On the internet, all kinds of people sharing all kinds of deeply personal shit (some fact, some fiction), probably for all kinds of reasons. Read it or not, comment or not, scroll right past it... No real disappointment and no guilt trips (except for the rare virtual asshole who expects too much and can't respect boundaries). Perfect.