Will you choose Assisted Living or your own home w/nursing care?

[Midwest Spy]

My 88 year old grandmother has been in a facility for just over 2 years now on Mississippi's gulf coast. My dad visits her constantly and she really is in the best that that area has to offer.

But, after this most recent visit, he came back saying how he simply wished it would end for her.

All the falls, the staff that's there but doesn't really give a shit, but more
Importantly, the true sorrow he can detect in his mother in being there.

Good points raised here. How do you know what kind of care she is receiving when your backs are turned? When you are not looking, what's going on? What sort of monitoring is going on with lesser skilled staff? What sort of screening is done? Are there security measures to ensure that they are not vulnerable to elder abuse?

MWS has just said this is the 'best' that area has to offer. What about facilities that are not so good?

Aussie, my aunt lives in Biloxi near her facility, and sees her almost daily. She's been moved 2 or 3 times to my knowledge, and money has never been a factor (due to grandma's sizeable nestegg, which apparently is in danger of disappearing).

My other grandmother ended up in a terrible place here in MN. Stinky place, and most of the residents were completely out of it (mentally), including my g'ma.

If I get to the point where I'm pissing and shitting myself and DON'T KNOW IT, I'd want to end it.