Do you ever blame the victim...

[HairOfTheDog]

I don't care if she's 16 or 40, the prom queen or a worn-out hooker. If someone makes him/herself an easier target by not being in full control of their faculties or choosing a higher risk lifestyle, it's not surprising to me when that someone is violated by a predator. But, it makes no difference at all as to whether I consider that person a victim and the violent criminally-minded asshole who chose to exploit and prey on another person's vulnerability fully to blame.

You feel worse for the person that was raped while sober than the person that was raped while drunk, but in the end a rapist is still a rapist.

I feel equally bad for a drunk or sober rape victim. A rapist is still a rapist, whether they pick the easiest available targets or anyone else.