03-05-2013, 03:17 PM
(03-05-2013, 02:50 PM)username Wrote: I'm not advocating for abortions but in the case of severe health issues with a fetus...it makes it more complicated.
Especially when you have two mothers involved and they're at odds regarding the abortion issue. Complicated x 2.
Everyone's different, of course. But, if I had 3 children already and was physically unable to conceive a 4th, I'd consider adoption before surrogacy. There are unknowns and risks with both, but here we have a child who was intentionally created where neither the genetic parents nor the birth mom is prepared to care for her while an existing child somewhere is waiting for parents.
I've also read about several cases over the years where the surrogate mother changed her mind and fought legally to keep the child (sometimes successfully); not sure if all of them were the genetic moms. So many potential complications and heartaches from such an agreement.