Are you a good parent?

[ramseycat]

And my mother who refuses to go into a nursing home even though she has cancer.

Why would your mom want to go to a nursing home? Would you want to go to a depressing place that smells of shit and piss just because you had cancer?

This should go into "are you a good parent thread". If your kids don't throw you into a nursing home then you know you did something right.

Actually she was going to go to the same place as my brother. Not some skank ass place. I understand why she wants to be at home. It's because she can smoke there. Being in a NH for a bit until she gets the final word on her prognosis would be the smart thing to do because she can get all the care she needs there. Instead, she would rather smoke and have visiting nurses, PT come to the house, aids come to the house, a life alert thing, and meals on wheels. I guess the damage is done so she might as well continue to smoke and be happy.