01-25-2014, 12:24 PM
When I agree with you, I'll say so, CN. When I don't, I'll say so too. That shouldn't surprise you or anyone here. We seem to view life very differently, not shocking that we're gonna have differences of opinion.
I guess how you view the OP "confrontation" depends on experience and personality.
I'd not expect nor would I want a stranger to make a scene on my behalf because a man was getting an eyeful from me on the bus, or while walking past a construction site, or at the grocery store... (if my boyfriend was there and he noticed it and got all verbal, I'd understand that, but still wouldn't need or want that reaction).
Never would have wanted such unnecessary intervention by a stranger when I was a young adult and wouldn't find it necessary or admirable on my 19 year-old niece's behalf under those circumstances either. We'd both probably consider the guy a creepy perv, whether or not he was older than our fathers, but wouldn't consider being checked out hard in a public place a situation in need of diffusing. Neither of us is the type that sees ourselves as damsels in distress or victims or having been violated by such a non-threatening experience and wouldn't be looking for rescue from the self-appointed citizen's morality or thought police.
In the OP case, had the women asked or signaled for help, or they'd confronted him, or he'd verbally or physically threatened them in any way, that's when I'd consider it my business and not hesitate to get involved.
A stranger to the women in the OP turning it into a confrontation with another stranger over staring wasn't diffusing a situation, it was starting unnecessary drama for the benefit of the interventionist, IMO. I'd feel that way regardless of who the stranger interventionist was under the described circumstances, but respect that others instead see it as a brave and moral feat. Different strokes...
I guess how you view the OP "confrontation" depends on experience and personality.
I'd not expect nor would I want a stranger to make a scene on my behalf because a man was getting an eyeful from me on the bus, or while walking past a construction site, or at the grocery store... (if my boyfriend was there and he noticed it and got all verbal, I'd understand that, but still wouldn't need or want that reaction).
Never would have wanted such unnecessary intervention by a stranger when I was a young adult and wouldn't find it necessary or admirable on my 19 year-old niece's behalf under those circumstances either. We'd both probably consider the guy a creepy perv, whether or not he was older than our fathers, but wouldn't consider being checked out hard in a public place a situation in need of diffusing. Neither of us is the type that sees ourselves as damsels in distress or victims or having been violated by such a non-threatening experience and wouldn't be looking for rescue from the self-appointed citizen's morality or thought police.
In the OP case, had the women asked or signaled for help, or they'd confronted him, or he'd verbally or physically threatened them in any way, that's when I'd consider it my business and not hesitate to get involved.
A stranger to the women in the OP turning it into a confrontation with another stranger over staring wasn't diffusing a situation, it was starting unnecessary drama for the benefit of the interventionist, IMO. I'd feel that way regardless of who the stranger interventionist was under the described circumstances, but respect that others instead see it as a brave and moral feat. Different strokes...