ATTRACTION

[Donovan]

I have long suspected and have seen a great deal of evidence to support that we subconsciously seek out partners who match our earliest imprints of what the opposite sex behaves like. Much like Freud's whole "marry your mother" theory, but a little more subtle and less overtly sexual. I think our earliest role models of the opposite sex give us a template of "normal" even if they aren't. So we spend our lives subconsciously being attracted to people who share some, but not all, of those characteristics. Body types, personality traits, ways of dressing/talking/laughing...it can be one or a dozen triggers. Personally, I grew up with a dominant, bossy mother who was very exacting and behaved out of necessity like a field general to a houseful of kids. So I like bossy women who can handle roomsful of kids: i.e. soccer moms and teachers. Doesn't mean I listen any better or am in any way submissive, but I feel more comfortable around women not afraid to tell me what kind of rolling donut to take a flying fuck at.

My GF had a semi-contentious relationship with her know-it-all, infuriatingly condescending father who favors Hawaiian shirts. I'm not sure how that relates to me. But we did get along very well on the cruise.