09-11-2014, 10:54 AM
Sally, I understand what you are saying, but I do not feel it is always a case of the woman "allowing" the abuse as much as being so knocked back emotionally and psychologically that they feel the abuse is somehow abused or deserved. They feel if they were a better person, more helpful, less "demanding" on husband/significant other they would not be beaten. The pattern of abuse is the man saying "if you weren't so ______I would not have to hit you". They feel they cannot do better.