10-09-2014, 08:02 PM
User, u said how would I know if he molested children, it changed their lives forever. I speak as a victim at the age of 5 years old in a small town in Kansas.
The offender was the neighbor's grandfather and it happened more than once. He told me I should never tell and I never mentioned until I was in my 50's.
That abuse changed my life forever and is one big reason, I think I later wanted to get a Master's degree in counseling. I have since counseled dozens of girls (some boys but they rarely will talk about it) with life long problems from sexual abuse. That is why I like to say, that until you walk in someone else's shoes, don't judge. I can't speak to your abuse as every case can be different, but it can show itself later in life in ways you wouldn't even realize was result of earlier abuse.... and just because it didn't affect u, doesn't mean my original statement is any less true.
The offender was the neighbor's grandfather and it happened more than once. He told me I should never tell and I never mentioned until I was in my 50's.
That abuse changed my life forever and is one big reason, I think I later wanted to get a Master's degree in counseling. I have since counseled dozens of girls (some boys but they rarely will talk about it) with life long problems from sexual abuse. That is why I like to say, that until you walk in someone else's shoes, don't judge. I can't speak to your abuse as every case can be different, but it can show itself later in life in ways you wouldn't even realize was result of earlier abuse.... and just because it didn't affect u, doesn't mean my original statement is any less true.