01-27-2009, 05:50 PM
The Antagonist Wrote:You meant competent right? Gran has to be competant to make her own decisions on who she stays with.Thanks for the advice. I might be able to get video, my camera does a pretty good job of that.
Your tape means nothing. Unless you put a preamble on there saying the day, time and who is in the room and what you're recording for. If you have a camcorder, use that too.
Do it again with all the p's & q's in place or that tape aint' worth shit. Make sure also you don't sound like you're coaching her.
If she's incompetant like you (i'm sure mistakenly) write, she has no say but the power of attorney should.
I'd try a video of her and take a shot of everyone in the room. That would prove all the more she was not coaxed and she did not read off a script.
Actually, I meant 'incompetent'. I believe the statement was something to the effect 'until she is proven incompetent by court hearing, she can say where she wants to be', but yeah, I know what you're saying.
Today, we went to the courthouse and got copies of the deed to the house and the will (which was registered yesterday), as well as the 'guardianship' packet that my mom will have to do through civil court. I then took mom and grandmother to the library, where I printed out new forms for Durable Power of Attorney and Medical Power of Attorney, read them to my grandmother, asked her questions about who she wanted to make her decisions for her, and of course she said she wanted my mom to. Then recorded everything (stating the time, place and all that) before the Notary and had it all notarized.
The recordings themselves may be worthless, but no harm done either. I'll have to take mom back to the courthouse tomorrow to get everything reregistered and make sure to send registered copies to my aunt and uncle.
What a mess... seriously. Just one more reason to only have one kid. At least I won't have to worry about my kids fighting over whatever I might have had when I kick off.