10-30-2015, 04:05 PM
(10-30-2015, 12:06 PM)Duchess Wrote:
I'm not exactly talkin' orgasms.
Do you have anything nice to say about yourself?
When people think highly of themselves why is it often frowned upon?
Back in the day, we called such people conceited, we now mostly say you are a a confident person. Usually, if you ask group of people to list good things about them versus bad, we all come up with a long list of negative things versus good things. Generations ago, we mostly criticized, rather than praised behavior.
Back in college, I did a study (for statistics class) on first graders on self esteem. It was very interesting....Little kids did not understand concept of self esteem. Their self esteem was based on possessions, other people, etc. They related liking something in their environment to liking themselves.....the more they possessed, the more they liked themselves.
I wrote a paper on why we should teach life skills, focusing on self-esteem at a very early age...don't want to brag, but did get an A+ on that piece of work.....along with results of study.
I conducted many group sessions where I asked people to list their "good" traits versus "bad." You know which list was longer.
As an example, here is my list:
Bad: stubborn, opinionated, sarcastic, bitchy, verbose, snarly, complainer, debbie downer, nervous nelly, hateful, irritable, you get my drift....
Good: hmm.......let me think about this one......well, maybe my sense of humor; will get back to you on this one......