04-07-2016, 11:52 AM
(04-06-2016, 05:37 PM)Donovan Wrote: If I had said my name was involved, the answers would have been biased based on prejudice for or against me. It wouldn't have been " who is correct?" but "does Donovan deserve this."
And if I had left the genders reversed, there was a real possibility of gender bias, as the females of the species tend to support one another against the evils of big stinky men. The scientific term for such an arbitrary grouping is "gaggle of bitches."
I wanted honest opinions not on whether I was right, but on whether I was overreacting to the conditions set forth. In case you people haven't noticed, I need very little encouragement in deciding whether I am right. And even less vocal support.
The actual real reason I needed input is that my obvious decision is to leave, again, and not look back. But there is a five year old boy I love to death who will be crushed when that happens, and since he is no official kin to me my leaving will be effectively ending our relationship as well.
For good.
That puts a hell of a different spin on things. Little dude is special to me more than anybody next to my own boy, but the hard fact is she and I can't stay friends after this. Not this way. So I have to be sure, be DAMN sure, that I am not over reacting or letting irrational jealousy fire my feelings.
Does that make sense to anyone?
I'm not sure if I've ever commented on any of your chicken threads, but I haven't ever seen the women in here gang up together on a serious topic like this just because we're women. I hate that shit, and my guess is most of the others do too. I can't see anyone telling you they're happy you got shit on because they think you deserve it either.
What I have seen is most of the women who normally reply to these kinds of posts coddling you (for lack of a better word) or saying things to make you feel better, giving advice, opinions or whatever...
Since you questioned my maturity up thread, how about we question yours.
Next time you have an issue to bring up you want opinions on, how about just putting it out there like you always have and keep the "hypothetical" bullshit out of it. You're on a forum where you take your chances of any replies you might get, like it or not.