I need discipline

[crash]

I hate when they say it at all. It means I lost. That’s the end of that. Pack it up. Move on.

Clearly,  you're an idiot.   It doesn't mean 'you lost`.  It means that your partner doesn't feel safe in the situation.   Are you perpetually single?

Clearly, you misunderstood my intent, or you take things too literally and have limited experience at the subject at hand, apart from what you’ve read online.

I’m highly aware of the clinical function of the safe word, as you so effortlessly outlined above in a single sentence. But are you aware of the ramifications of it? and I’m not talking about in a session at a sleazy S&M club with someone you just met half an hour ago, I mean from a committed..

Egggh...not worth the details.