10-03-2022, 05:33 AM
Like you i am an introvert, i had to learn to be more extrovert. I go to a duck rescue centre, and the lady who runs it is an intj. She runs it extremely well, no detail is overlooked. As a teenager her parents had to force her to go out, she thought socialising was silly, that people just talk crap. She spends all her time looking after the ducks, early morning to late at night, ive offered to mind the place while she goes out to the cinema with her husband or whatever, she wont.
Her speech is brief, to the point, like a nazi general, she is a high achiever. Her social skills are appaling, she disconnects when things get to silly in her opinion. She has contempt. Yet she is married with a teenage son.
That could be you chang, youve got to be more pro active and assertive. You cant be defeated by previous failures. Assertion is a muscle, boundaries are important, i suspect you are taken advantage of.
There is plenty of info on the internet on assertion. Thats a start, with your family and at work, being a good person doesnt always work for you. Withh assertion comes many good things, including control of your life. Confidence booms. Get into social situations with possibilities, talk to women. Talking is no 1 it all goes from that. It can go from talking about the weather or the Buffalo Bills to rampant hot heaving sex in a hour.
Be pro active. Women like to be the object of an assertive man, in regards to conversation, opinions, and where to stay the night. Dont be put off by rejection, ive been rejected a thousand times. And a thousand times not. You are sensitive, it will be a blow to your ego, instantly dismiss it. You will begin to regard rejection as nothing, just part of an evening out. You can dwell on it, its can be a loop.
When i was where you are, if i went out and not had a good go, i would feel dreadful at the end of the evening having not chanced my arm.
Dont feel pressured, look at it as a behavioural plan, but maybe you could let me know how you do, support can be a valuable thing.
Her speech is brief, to the point, like a nazi general, she is a high achiever. Her social skills are appaling, she disconnects when things get to silly in her opinion. She has contempt. Yet she is married with a teenage son.
That could be you chang, youve got to be more pro active and assertive. You cant be defeated by previous failures. Assertion is a muscle, boundaries are important, i suspect you are taken advantage of.
There is plenty of info on the internet on assertion. Thats a start, with your family and at work, being a good person doesnt always work for you. Withh assertion comes many good things, including control of your life. Confidence booms. Get into social situations with possibilities, talk to women. Talking is no 1 it all goes from that. It can go from talking about the weather or the Buffalo Bills to rampant hot heaving sex in a hour.
Be pro active. Women like to be the object of an assertive man, in regards to conversation, opinions, and where to stay the night. Dont be put off by rejection, ive been rejected a thousand times. And a thousand times not. You are sensitive, it will be a blow to your ego, instantly dismiss it. You will begin to regard rejection as nothing, just part of an evening out. You can dwell on it, its can be a loop.
When i was where you are, if i went out and not had a good go, i would feel dreadful at the end of the evening having not chanced my arm.
Dont feel pressured, look at it as a behavioural plan, but maybe you could let me know how you do, support can be a valuable thing.