01-28-2010, 11:45 AM
Ant, I'd quote you but your comments are in a multi-quote mess so I will go by memory. Where did I say it was Lumpy's fault and how did I come off like I had a small circle of friends (I said friends and family by the way, and it's a large network over the years)?
Bottom line: two failed marriages are rare in my world, and I believe an extreme minority in the world in general, so let's stop acting like it is as common as normal marriage or just one failed marriage. Two failed marriages is a giant red flag. Sure it takes two to tango, so I am not naive enough to blame just one person, especially with so little info. But let's stop pretending that two failed marriages isn't something to gasp at, which was the point. The point wasn't about assigning blame, it was about whether or not two failed marriages warrants a "gasp" and it plainly does. Very few people are emotionally retarded, "unlucky," "victimized," or dysfunctional enough to have two failed marriages. I'm sure the "victim MO" will appeal to Lumpy so don't worry, I am ready for that bullshit.
Bottom line: two failed marriages are rare in my world, and I believe an extreme minority in the world in general, so let's stop acting like it is as common as normal marriage or just one failed marriage. Two failed marriages is a giant red flag. Sure it takes two to tango, so I am not naive enough to blame just one person, especially with so little info. But let's stop pretending that two failed marriages isn't something to gasp at, which was the point. The point wasn't about assigning blame, it was about whether or not two failed marriages warrants a "gasp" and it plainly does. Very few people are emotionally retarded, "unlucky," "victimized," or dysfunctional enough to have two failed marriages. I'm sure the "victim MO" will appeal to Lumpy so don't worry, I am ready for that bullshit.
