07-26-2014, 12:34 AM
I don't think men are the bad guys in every domestic abuse case (or custody case or divorce case), but, yeah, that does seem to be an automatic assumption by a lot of people.
There are women who batter men too and, yep, it's under-reported largely due to embarrassment and stigma on the male. I know this to be true -- it's way less common than male-initiated intimate partner abuse, but it happens.
I've read up on the Rice incident. Both parties were arrested. The police report indicates that each hit the other (but doesn't indicate who hit who first, though that doesn't matter much to me). Both refused medical attention and were released from jail after being charged with simple domestic assault. Neither wanted to press charges against the other.
So, here's my take. No matter what else happened, it's undisputed that this football player knocked out his fiancee (she didn't pass out because she was drunk; witnesses reported the physical altercation). We then see him drag her outta the elevator.
To me, there's no justification for him to knock her unconscious. I don't think anyone has to knock out a person whom they claim to love in order to contain a situation (whether it's Big Bertha cold-cocking Beanpole Bill or Ray Rice flattening his fiancee) unless that loved one has a weapon or can't be restrained. I personally can't believe that she presented great physical harm to him and Ray Rice couldn't have restrained her without knocking her out cold in an act of self defense. So, I think the dude's an asshole and don't know whether she's a violent asshole too.
Anyway, he wasn't convicted and the league has handled it as they see fit, so on with the show. I just hope this woman is not being bounced around by Rice and doesn't end up in the hospital or dead -- that's all.
There are women who batter men too and, yep, it's under-reported largely due to embarrassment and stigma on the male. I know this to be true -- it's way less common than male-initiated intimate partner abuse, but it happens.
I've read up on the Rice incident. Both parties were arrested. The police report indicates that each hit the other (but doesn't indicate who hit who first, though that doesn't matter much to me). Both refused medical attention and were released from jail after being charged with simple domestic assault. Neither wanted to press charges against the other.
So, here's my take. No matter what else happened, it's undisputed that this football player knocked out his fiancee (she didn't pass out because she was drunk; witnesses reported the physical altercation). We then see him drag her outta the elevator.
To me, there's no justification for him to knock her unconscious. I don't think anyone has to knock out a person whom they claim to love in order to contain a situation (whether it's Big Bertha cold-cocking Beanpole Bill or Ray Rice flattening his fiancee) unless that loved one has a weapon or can't be restrained. I personally can't believe that she presented great physical harm to him and Ray Rice couldn't have restrained her without knocking her out cold in an act of self defense. So, I think the dude's an asshole and don't know whether she's a violent asshole too.
Anyway, he wasn't convicted and the league has handled it as they see fit, so on with the show. I just hope this woman is not being bounced around by Rice and doesn't end up in the hospital or dead -- that's all.