The Death List

[Duchess]

I remember when your mom died.

[sally]

Yeah that was awful. Any death of a loved one is awful, but those hospice assholes made it much worse.

[Duchess]

It was so awful that it has stuck with me all this time. I'm not likely to forget it any time soon.

[MirahM]

My grandparents were in their late 80's when they died. My parents died at a young age, but that doesn't count because it was self inflicted.

Self inflicted because they didn't take care of themselves?


I am a bad influence on my mom, I sometimes bring her fudge. But right now she has been happy to loose like 2 lbs, so I am not bringing her fudge this time.

[BigMark]

Tomorrow is never guaranteed, when you wake up dead flip off the devil with both hands!

[Duchess]

I think about death every single day.

[BigMark]

You need more little death as the french say.

[sally]

My grandparents were in their late 80's when they died. My parents died at a young age, but that doesn't count because it was self inflicted.

Self inflicted because they didn't take care of themselves?


I am a bad influence on my mom, I sometimes bring her fudge. But right now she has been happy to loose like 2 lbs, so I am not bringing her fudge this time.

My dad overdosed on drugs at 47 and my mom got lung cancer from 50 years of smoking and refused the cancer treatments. So yeah, they could have taken a different path in life, especially my dad.

[Carsman]

I saw my mom open her computer this morning and see that news and I just wondered what does that feel like to be 81 and see someone who passed away at 93? Do you think, "Well maybe I have 12 years left?"
I mean I know i see people who die that are 51 and every age, it can happen to any one of us at any time.

Advancements in medicine has given todays generation the ability to be able to 
live a lot longer then the last generation. 

That being said, relatives or friends that were/are lucky enough to live to a ripe old age doesn’t indicate that you can/will live to a ripe old age. As we are aware factors can enter the equation. Sickness, disease, epidemics, accident’s etc..
So make the most of every day as if it were your last. 
You never know when it will be.

[BigMark]

it will always be yesterday or mañana...

[rothschild]

Medicine is one of the leading causes of death.

[sally]

I've never taken any medicine other than aspirin for an occasional headache and pain killers they gave me at the hospital a couple of times. When I had my cleaning business almost every house I cleaned had several prescription bottles on their counters. Some of these people were young too, many of them even doctors.

[aussiefriend]

Yeah that was awful. Any death of a loved one is awful, but those hospice assholes made it much worse.

I know this sounds pathetic, but I dont think I am over my mother still I have pangs of pain. So totally get where you are coming from Sally. 

The thing with my mum at the end, I got LOUD. It helped knowing what was right and wrong, and had to fight for my mum. Poor mum.

That's the bit that sticks in your goiter Sally, is the bit where they are suffering, it plays like a broken record.

[sally]

The Hospice people were so weird and tried to control every thing as if we just signed my mother over to them and they were there 24/7. They wouldnt even leave the room while I was talking to her on her deathbed. My mom pissed and shit all over herself and I was cleaning her up and the nurse tells me I need to puts on gloves right now. I lost it and told that bitch to get the fuck out of the room.

[sally]

This was at my bitch aunt's house, not the hospital. My mom went to her sister's house to die because she didn't want my kids to see her that way at my house. Then my aunt tells these hospice assholes to stay there constantly. Not once did I get to talk to my mom in private. Not even when she was dead would they give me a moment alone, I'm sitting there holding her hand and crying and the bitch nurse comes over and closes her eyes. I wanted to scream to get the fuck away from me for two seconds already, I'm perfectly capable of closing my mothers eyes myself, but I held it back.

[rothschild]

This was at my bitch aunt's house, not the hospital. My mom went to her sister's house to die because she didn't want my kids to see her that way at my house. Then my aunt tells these hospice assholes to stay there constantly. Not once did I get to talk to my mom in private. Not even when she was dead would they give me a moment alone, I'm sitting there holding her hand and crying and the bitch nurse comes over and closes her eyes. I wanted to scream to get the fuck away from me for two seconds already, I'm perfectly capable of closing my mothers eyes myself, but I held it back.

Do they train them to be that way? That's shocking to hear.

[aussiefriend]

This was at my bitch aunt's house, not the hospital. My mom went to her sister's house to die because she didn't want my kids to see her that way at my house. Then my aunt tells these hospice assholes to stay there constantly. Not once did I get to talk to my mom in private. Not even when she was dead would they give me a moment alone, I'm sitting there holding her hand and crying and the bitch nurse comes over and closes her eyes. I wanted to scream to get the fuck away from me for two seconds already, I'm perfectly capable of closing my mothers eyes myself, but I held it back.

That sounds like a nightmare. My sister turned up at the end stage from interstate and was crying and carrying on, but it was all a big show.

Yeh it's about power with some relatives. Power and control. My sister had harrassed me years ago, but I shut her down legally. Poor mum, she had evil intentions, my sister did. 

I think it's a painful time, but all these annoying weird people doing this stuff when someone you truly care about is passing, creates unnecessary trauma for us that we have to process afterwards. I can tell from what you are describing sounds intrusive and disrespectful for you and your mum. It's like, back the fuck off!

[Clang McFly]

I think about death every single day.

Happy New Death Year!

Jinx!

[aussiefriend]

Why do you think about death everyday Duch? Is it because we are getting older?

[Duchess]

I've been this way for as long as I can remember.