A WOMAN'S PLACE IS...

[Love Child]

It's one thing to want to make sure your man is happy & satisfied, it's quite another if the woman is supposed to be a second class citizen to him.

I have seen relationships like this where this is not the case. The truth is he totally takes care of her needs and his needs sometimes are second. If the husband is doing it "as the bible states" then he is laying down his life for her, she trusts that because it is out of love, not out of demands. If the man is a good leader then this can work well. It is actually a lot of responsibility on his shoulders.
I have a friend who is not religious and this is how they work their marriage and it is kind of a beautiful thing to see it work.

Is it for me? I never minded another person making the decisions especially if I knew they had my best interest at heart. I don't see it as taking away my power to make decisions, I see it as having someone on my side who is looking out for me.

Does that sound too old fashioned?

Answering the bold underlined question. Oh Hell no! I like my women with a little attitude.

And yet, I totally get what you are saying as well.

My hope is to always work as a team, together as equals. Not demanding or expecting but giving and being grateful in return.

Too idealistic?

[username]

No, Not too idealistic as far as I'm concerned. I think what you described was a healthy partnership for the most part. If some women (or men) let their significant other take the lead in certain areas, that's totally cool. When I hear "submissive" though, I think of a relationship where the submissive one does what they're told, doesn't argue back, has to answer to the dominant partner...basically it sounds more like a parent/child arrangement as opposed to two adults agreeing to the terms of their relationship.

yuk.

[Love Child]

Yeah, after I read the article, I must admit my skin crawled when I heard some of the language. I think because of watching my mother go through what she did with my father and he was an asshole, I did not have a good example at all of a healthy relationship growing up.
I have to look elsewhere at other relationships for examples, then I have to realize that no two relationships can be the same.

[Duchess]

Does that sound too old fashioned?

No, but even if it did I wouldn't view it as a bad thing. I don't think there is anything wrong with having old fashioned values. I see that as a positive thing.