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(12-18-2016, 03:40 PM)username Wrote: Yeah, 21 years....
I dunno. I don't even care if we divorce (at this point). I just need out from under this chaotic/depressive environment so I can have a life. Plus...it's catching. I'm weepy, moody and irritated--more than usual!!
This has all happened because, despite the advice and recommendations of some of the leading Drs. in the country AND locally, about 7 months ago, my daughter decided they were ALL WRONG and she didn't need to take one, little, anti-depressant. In her glorious wisdom, they're all placebos being marketed and sold by big Pharmo to gullible individuals. Since then, her behavior and abilities have gone down the shitter.
We've been told we can't force her to take that stupid medicine and I've agreed (ya' can't sit on her) but after watching her slide for 6 months, I've had it; we have to do something. We can decide if she lives here (so harsh after all the time she's been away for treatment but god dammit, the "treatment" was worthless when she ignores what she's been told) OR we can treat her like any person that refuses to follow Drs. orders. We can bring someone in to help her get up, get ready, get her ass to school etc. My husband calculated that she attends UCPrivate School 45% of the time recently. She just doesn't or "can't" go. It's making me crazy and she doesn't/won't make the connection back to stopping her medication.
So I have to leave the crazy house before it kills me. *drama*
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(12-18-2016, 03:40 PM)username Wrote: Yeah, 21 years....
I dunno. I don't even care if we divorce (at this point). I just need out from under this chaotic/depressive environment so I can have a life. Plus...it's catching. I'm weepy, moody and irritated--more than usual!!
This has all happened because, despite the advice and recommendations of some of the leading Drs. in the country AND locally, about 7 months ago, my daughter decided they were ALL WRONG and she didn't need to take one, little, anti-depressant. In her glorious wisdom, they're all placebos being marketed and sold by big Pharmo to gullible individuals. Since then, her behavior and abilities have gone down the shitter.
We've been told we can't force her to take that stupid medicine and I've agreed (ya' can't sit on her) but after watching her slide for 6 months, I've had it; we have to do something. We can decide if she lives here (so harsh after all the time she's been away for treatment but god dammit, the "treatment" was worthless when she ignores what she's been told) OR we can treat her like any person that refuses to follow Drs. orders. We can bring someone in to help her get up, get ready, get her ass to school etc. My husband calculated that she attends UCPrivate School 45% of the time recently. She just doesn't or "can't" go. It's making me crazy and she doesn't/won't make the connection back to stopping her medication.
So I have to leave the crazy house before it kills me. *drama*
Sorry to hear about your drama, user.
In my case it wasn't a Big Pharma scam that stopped me from taking my half an antidepressant, it was that I wanted "real" happiness and not the "fake" happiness I felt from taking a pill.
But after hearing your story and after my anxiety attacks doing community service last year and more recently at work, I might just need to go to the doctor and start taking some sort of antidepressant/anti-anxiety pill.
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(12-18-2016, 04:08 PM)BigMark Wrote: http://mockforums.net/showthread.php?tid...#pid444028
I don't know why you had to remind me about your dry, crusty problems (and a link to boot). Mine are 1st world problems. You're a 3 rd world, 7-11 affectionado, butt sniffing dumwit. Sucks to be you. Still.
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(12-18-2016, 08:01 PM)Clang McFly Wrote: ...it was that I wanted "real" happiness and not the "fake" happiness I felt from taking a pill.
See, I don't think of it as fake at all. Granted they are over prescribed yada, yada but some people DO just have faulty wiring or chemical imbalances or real issues that are helped by an anti-depressant (the one my daughter is supposed to take is designed for anxiety primarily but it's WAY better than having her on Valium or something like that). It just centered her. She wasn't wildly happy on the anti-depressant...it just gave her some peace of mind. Without it...ay caramba, she's thinking. Always thinking. What if this, what if that, how do you know..HOW DO YOU KNOW??? She has this book called "Comfortable with Uncertainty". Now that she's off the meds, she wants absolute, 100% certainty in a world where it doesn't exist and you can't prove a negative. The stuff she wants answers to (and paralyze her)...makes my head spin. I can't give examples off hand but what if you wondered if you might get that flesh eating bacteria (for example). I can tell her it's HIGHLY unlikely unless she does x,y,z blah, blah. But then she goes to "yeah but what if"? and then "what if" again?? She doesn't believe in odds or probabilities. She's always looking at the outliers; the 1 in a million chance. It's truly sad (although Mark's life sucks more). 
Anywho, all these years, she's probably been on that one medication for possibly a year and a half total (once for 8 months and then this last time for 7 months or so). She's always done better and then yeah, beyond the placebo, pharma thing, she also thinks she should get "better" naturally. That stupid pill just helps bring her some peace of mind. How she doesn't recognize THAT (and want that peace back) baffles the hell out of me.
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I'm really sorry you're going through this User. I know how it feels to want to be able to fix things for your child. And the frustration from not being able to and from them not doing what you know they should. It really stinks that's it's ruining your marriage. If there is an Enthusiastic Sobriety program out there, you should look into it. I know your daughter isn't doing drugs. But the program is amazing for kids with a lot of different problems.
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Huh. I've never heard of such a thing. She's going to be 18 in a couple of months so we won't be able to send her anywhere (except out on her butt). There's an Evolve wilderness program that has been recommended to me but my husband is done sending her anywhere (which I get but I still can't/won't tolerate the status quo).
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