I am deflated

[cannongal]

My eldest step daughter has decided to use her kids against us, because we wouldn't let them move back in with us for the 7^th time. The grandbrats are 10 & 8, and have live in 15 different places (besides our home-which they lives here 6 times). The last time they were getting evicted, back in July, they asked us again, and we said that we'd take the kids, but that they (her & her husband) could stay in a shelter or something, until they got they're act together. They opted to live in a hotel with the kids instead.

Now they are pissed, because my youngest step daughter, made a stupid decision, and found herself homeless, so she is sleeping on our couch.

The eldest refuses to come over now, and says if we want the grandkids to have their presents, we can drop them off at the hotel while the kids are at school. Because we wouldn't let them move in here a 7^th time.


What in the actual fuck??? I don't even know how to respond to this. My Christmas Day is now shot to shit.

[Maggot]

Your Christmas is not lost. The step parents are. The children will be children no matter what and I have gone through crap like that with my own Daughter. She is doing well now but she knows she cannot move in with me. She has learned the lesson of putting her kids first and is doing much better.

I'm sorry you have to deal with idiots but try and look at some kind of bright side. Teenagers are tough as they adjust into an adult world and they need guidance and patience. Then they leave not even knowing how much you care or how much you have sacrificed. Its how it is quite a bit. They will remember later though and regret what they did. I have on many an occasion.

[Duchess]

The eldest refuses to come over now, and says if we want the grandkids to have their presents, we can drop them off at the hotel while the kids are at school. Because we wouldn't let them move in here a 7^th time.


What in the actual fuck??? I don't even know how to respond to this. My Christmas Day is now shot to shit.

She is choosing to punish her children by keeping them away, she is, not you. You choose to share your love with them. This is all on her, don't you dare feel guilty for choices that another adult makes. She is being a selfish little bitch who doesn't care enough to put her kids first. She sucks!

[cannongal]

Thanks guys, I am literally in a head spin tonight. A bit of backstory is the eldest's husband has always put his own wants before his families needs. He has the latest video game equipment, but we had to buy the grandkids boots, coats hats & mittens this year. He thinks nothing of ordering $100.00 worth of Chinese food one night, while going to the food pantry the next. I'm so tired of him, it isn't even funny anymore. He has never made a decision that benefits his family, and his wife (my eldest step daughter) has supported him for 10 years, because *love* ok, whatever, you love him, but damn. Open your fucking eyes, girl, It's not our fault that you can't keep an apartment for longer than 9 months. Try paying the rent every once in a while, it might help! They're fucking butthurt because we let the youngest stepdaughter sleep on our couch 4 months after we said no to them. We didn't clean out a room for the youngest, and we don't make special accommodations for her, she has a fucking couch for christ sake. The youngest has been sleeping on our couch since Thanksgiving, and all of the sudden, it's become an issue with the oldest.

That's what I can't wrap my head around. We've helped the oldest out 6 times, was that 5 times too many? I don't know- but the hubs is hurtin, and I don't know how to make it better. God, I wish I could knock some sense into the oldest right now. Fuck her!

[Maggot]

You can only do what you can. That's all, you cannot be everything.

[sally]

Beat the shit out of them, with physical violence. And then tell them if they ever want to amount to anything other than useless scum of the earth they need to bend the knee and suck it up. If not burn in hell.

[Duchess]

they need to bend the knee

She watches GoT.

[Duchess]

He has the latest video game equipment, but we had to buy the grandkids boots, coats hats & mittens this year. He thinks nothing of ordering $100.00 worth of Chinese food one night, while going to the food pantry the next.

He's immature and had shit for brains to even consider having children. Parents sacrifice for their children when needed. I'm not telling you anything you don't already know. I feel pissy towards strangers because they are emotionally hurting their kids by keeping them from their grandparents! At Christmas time!

[Love Child]

What Duchess said.

I am sorry you have to go through this Cannon, and I am glad that there are people here that have gone though similiar things that can offer their experience. (Not that I am glad anyone goes through that, you know what I mean)