New Chang.

[Clang McFly]

We like Clang just the way he is.

Exactly

[Piglet]

Yes, you are quite right. One of my default settings of who i am is that every day i try and improve myself, which i dont see as a problem. It is a problem when i automatically think people are the same, they are not. It doesnt make sense to me, but there you go. Its a massive problem really, when i think of my ex wife, for gods sake. When your with me your on trial.

She failed. Look at it from my point of view, if you can improve a cooking technique, save money in whatever way, develop short cuts, or whatever.

But choose not too.

How fucking mad is that. Clang, i command you to buy lavender after shave, do it now. Duchess, when it comes to it, i can improve your technique...." wink".

Only kidding. I have control problems, but only for the better.

[Clang McFly]

Yes, you are quite right.  One  of my default settings of who i am is that every day i try and improve myself, which i dont see as a problem.  It is a problem when i automatically think people are the same, they are not.  It doesnt make sense to me, but there you go.      Its a massive problem really, when i think of my ex wife, for gods sake.    When your with me your on trial. 

She failed.  Look at it from my point of view, if you can improve a cooking technique,  save money  in whatever way,  develop short cuts, or whatever.

But choose not too.

How fucking mad is that.  Clang, i command you to buy lavender after shave, do it now.  Duchess, when it comes to it, i can improve your technique...." wink".

Only kidding.  I have control problems, but only for the better.

I plan on keeping the beard at least until my birthday....why the fuck would I buy aftershave?

[BlueTiki]

Piggy's obsession with lavender is really quite telling.

[MirahM]

Aha Piglet! If you want to improve then I suggest picking up some zen techniques and learn acceptance.

I suggest reading " Don't take your life personally" by Ajahn Sumedho

[Piglet]

I need to do something. In my defence Clang did present the problem of wanting a girlfriend, hence advice, not given otherwise. Someone once said that to keep doing the same thing expecting a different result is a form of madness.

What this means is that Clang needs to change, what hes doing now isnt working. It is crazy to want a girlfriend and then not, at least, start working towards it.

Has Clang done that?, no. Getting out of your comfort zone is needed. Is Clang going to get a girlfriend doing the same thing over and over.? No. Getting out of your comfort zone ia always required, if you dont, you become an old shoe at the bottom of a river.

I am completely happy with who i am, everyone who has contact with me benefits, strangely, like here, i dont.

If his discomfort at not having a girl was bad, he would have done something about it. a long time ago. Hes old now, an old dog. Indeed Mirah, acceptance on Clangs part is needed, that he will NEVER get a girl.

If i have a problem, i solve it, not wallow in helplessness., which is the worst of all worlds. All i want is for Clang to be happy. End of.

Am i paradoxing Clang?, you decide. And as for myself, stepping away from a fools errand is required. Lavender is a wonderful scent Tiki, suitable for both sexes. I regard all your posts with sceticism, worthy of your title, sincerity faker. Everything you post is potentially fake.

I dont know which is which. Like this. Male or female?, whatever you reply, it will be fake. Mister.

[BigMark]

I think a friend with benefits at first, preferably female would be best.

[Clang McFly]

I need to do something.  In my defence Clang did present the problem of wanting a girlfriend, hence advice, not given otherwise.    Someone once said that  to keep doing the same thing expecting a different result is a form of madness.

What this means is that Clang needs to change, what hes doing now isnt working.  It is crazy to want a girlfriend and then not, at least, start working towards it.

Has Clang done that?, no.  Getting out of your comfort zone is needed.  Is Clang going to get a girlfriend doing the same thing over and over.?  No.  Getting out of your comfort zone ia always required, if you dont, you become an old shoe at the bottom of a river.

I am completely happy with who i am, everyone who has contact with me benefits, strangely, like here, i dont.

If his discomfort at not having a girl was bad, he would have done something about it. a long time ago.  Hes old now, an old dog.  Indeed Mirah, acceptance on Clangs part is needed, that he will NEVER get a girl.

If i have a problem, i solve it, not wallow in helplessness., which is the worst of all worlds.    All i want is for Clang to be happy.  End of.

Am i paradoxing Clang?, you decide.    And as for myself, stepping away from a fools errand is required.  Lavender is a wonderful scent Tiki, suitable for both sexes.  I regard all your posts with sceticism, worthy of your title, sincerity faker.      Everything you post is potentially fake.

I dont know which is which.  Like this.  Male or female?, whatever you reply, it will be fake.  Mister.

I've been outside my comfort zone for many years now. I sometimes wonder though if not happier, I would have been better off continuing my hermit lifestyle.

I want a girlfriend but I still want to enjoy a modicum of independence. I want a date night in and/or with my girlfriend and a night out with the boys. I want it all. Am I asking too much?

[BlueTiki]

Aha Piglet! If you want to improve then I suggest . . .  learn acceptance.

AMEN, sister!!!

But then again, darling Piggy . . . it's so much easier to take everyone else's inventory than to invest and replenish what is lacking in yours.  Isn't it, dearest? 

[Duchess]

 I want a date night in and/or with my girlfriend and a night out with the boys. I want it all. Am I asking too much?

No, you're not. All couples should have their own interests aside from what they have together as a couple. Don't ever hook up with anyone whose only interest is in you & what you're doing.

[Duchess]

darling Piggy . . .

Isn't it, dearest? 

You never call me darling or dearest.   

[sally]

No more wire coat hangers, cunt! How's that?

[Clang McFly]

 I want a date night in and/or with my girlfriend and a night out with the boys. I want it all. Am I asking too much?

No, you're not. All couples should have their own interests aside from what they have together as a couple. Don't ever hook up with anyone whose only interest is in you & what you're doing.

[Duchess]

No more wire coat hangers, cunt! How's that?

Wire coat hangers are awful for your clothes. Wood only! 

I'm a wire coat hanger snob.  

[sally]

darling Piggy . . .

Isn't it, dearest? 

You never call me darling or dearest.   

No more wire coat hangers, cunt! How's that?

Wire coat hangers are awful for your clothes. Wood only! 

I'm a wire coat hanger snob.  

Well then we should call you Mommy Dearest.

[sally]

If you youtube mommy dearest no more wire hangers, that is literally how my husband acts. Not over wire hangers, but gutter hangers.

[BlueTiki]

You never call me darling or dearest.   

And I've never sent a pair of PajamaGrams, to you, for Christmas.

Ahhhh . . . Toledo good times!

[Piglet]

It isnt about generalisations tiki, Clang is of the type that needs someone holding his feet to the fire, he has said so himself. He is like his father, and i have become the father he never had.

And you are right that helpers lack something in their lives, generally. I am thinking about that now and have come up with some sort of rampant gagging female who will leave me speechless as my partner is ill. Personally i have bad faults, as described, plus a Mirah fault, that i care too much. The thought that i never have is " whats in this for me". For clang to get a girl would please me immensely.

On the really bad side, there is the door slam, i can cut people off permanently in a second, when im driven to distraction. The worst genocidal maniacs are of my type, which i have felt, that murderousness.

And what of you tiki. ? You are an introvert, obviously a thinker. What are your faults? Not that i would believe a word.

Whats all that stuff about coat hangers about?

[rothschild]

Clang needs a colonoscopy, Piglet. Do you do colonoscopies?

[BlueTiki]

Piglet. Do you do colonoscopies?

Just because he has his head up his ass, it doesn't qualify him as a proficient for the general public.