The 2025 Trivial Drivel Thread

[username]

Example: my mom owns a vacation home in Palm Springs that my brother has always said he would want to buy. Which is fine. He can buy it but he said some shit a couple days ago about leaving it in the trust…but no…that’s not okay. I’m not in a rush (fine waiting months if not a year) but he has to buy my sister and I out on that house. As much as he might like to enjoy it while it sits in the trust indefinitely; that’s not happening.

[sally]

I was the only beneficiary when my grandparents passed away, my dad would have been the one to recieve it, but he killed himself with drugs. I got a sizeable inheritance, but I was an only child and grandchild, I had no family to argue with it about. I gave my mom a lot of it and she never did like my dad or his parents lol.

[username]

The funny/not funny thing is my husband is/was my mom’s wealth manager. He by FAR knows more about her assets and accounts and stuff than I do. I’ve never asked him for information because it wasn’t my business and I’m still not asking him for information because I keep suggesting we have a conference call with him to learn more about my mom’s accounts and stuff. And my brother is like “I’ll let you know about mom’s finances”.

Srsly? Retarded and if I wanted the information I’m entitled to it as co-trustee and the guy happens to sleep next to me.

Face/palm

[sally]

I really need to make a will or a family trust or something. If my husband and I died tomorrow everthing would have to go through probate. My son is such a sweet kid and my two bitch daughters would take him like a fool.

[username]

I really need to make a will or a family trust or something. If my husband and I died tomorrow everthing would have to go through probate. My son is such a sweet kid and my two bitch daughters would take him like a fool.

Despite my husband’s business we only finally created a trust a couple years ago.

I asked him a morbid question yesterday cuz everything (1/3^rd) in my mom’s trust will go to me (not him or ours). I was like…so if I get hit by a bus tomorrow can I know that my part of her inheritance will go to you and the kids? 

He told me I probably shouldn’t leave the house for a while and to stay away from knives and shit.

I guess I at least need to stick around for the next 6+ months.

[username]

And definitely…figure something out. I already feel like the middle person between my brother and sister. They’re both shady…I’m not too worried about great, great grandma’s wedding ring but they might kill each other over something like that.

Nuts.

[username]

 

If I died in the next weeks/months my husband and kids would quite possibly lose out on around $1.5 million or so that I’m likely to inherit. 

It’s a little tempting to kick the bucket just to twist them up for taking me for granted too often. The ultimate troll…

You didn’t like dinner the other night?!??! Take THIS….



Awww, it’s good to laugh especially when things are shitty. 

T’anks.

[sally]

That's a nice chunk of money, I'm rooting on you to survive until everything is finalized lol.

[username]

That's a nice chunk of money, I'm rooting on you to survive until everything is finalized lol.

We’ll see. It’s not going to be “life changing” for us but my older sister lives paycheck to paycheck (with little retirement savings) so I’m grateful she’ll be okay if she doesn’t blow it. 

But yeah, both my brother and sister are wayyy too interested in the money side (prematurely) while I’m trying to finish the obit and not kill each other getting my mom’s service together (the things that are actually right in front of us). 

Family.

[sally]

My husband is talking about selling his business because my son isn't running it right and he's sick of the headache. That would be enough money to live comfortably for the rest of our lives and then still leave them an inheritance. That would be a shame though because its an established business with passive income as long as my son doesn't run it into the ground. He's such a pain in my ass and he has a baby due in May, I can't even see that fool taking care of a baby.

[username]

My husband is talking about selling his business because my son isn't running it right and he's sick of the headache. That would be enough money to live comfortably for the rest of our lives and then still leave them an inheritance. That would be a shame though because its an established business with passive income as long as my son doesn't run it into the ground. He's such a pain in my ass and he has a baby due in May, I can't even see that fool taking care of a baby.

Yeah…my husband had some hope that one of our kids would take over his business but neither is willing/interested or capable. 

He could sell his business but he doesn’t have a solid person to take over or a good succession plan. He might keep working till he fucking dies which doesn’t work for me (cuz I’m already in retirement mode). It’s been suggested to me (and I’m going with it now especially since I won’t be spending free time caring for my mom) that I be a “rolling stone”. He can catch up to me if/when he’s ready.

[username]

OMFG, my brother has lost his mind. We’re trustees of my mom’s trust and he’s trying to do some weird power grab/thinks that entitles him to decide how and when my sister gets her part of the trust (cuz he’s worried she’ll blow it). 

Fucking idiot! Unless otherwise specified being a trustee just means you dole the money out as per the trust/will. You don’t get to make those decisions and shit about timing.

I’m the youngest and I feel like the oldest. Jeebus.

[MirahM]

I hate sibling money issues when someone dies. It is fucking gross. My sister once said, "I want this silverware when mom dies" at dinner, when mom was still there! She did it twice (months apart) and I finally told her to stop-when my mom dies I will be devastated and I don't care what she has or who gets what.

[username]

I hate sibling money issues when someone dies. It is fucking gross. My sister once said, "I want this silverware when mom dies" at dinner, when mom was still there! She did it twice (months apart) and I finally told her to stop-when my mom dies I will be devastated and I don't care what she has or who gets what.

Oh yeah and there’s that already happening. My brother went over to my mom’s the day she passed and grabbed two jewelry boxes to put in his safe at home (for safekeeping). My sister went there the next day and she knew my mom kept her more valuable pieces in a vanity drawer and she found those and I think plans to take them home with her “for safekeeping”. 

Vultures. We’ll see if stuff resurfaces for us to actually divide up. I care because that’s what my mom wanted.

I’m taking a mental health break from the family texting today.

[MirahM]

Oh good for you for taking care of yourself.

[rothschild]

I hate sibling money issues when someone dies. It is fucking gross. My sister once said, "I want this silverware when mom dies" at dinner, when mom was still there! She did it twice (months apart) and I finally told her to stop-when my mom dies I will be devastated and I don't care what she has or who gets what.

Oh yeah and there’s that already happening. My brother went over to my mom’s the day she passed and grabbed two jewelry boxes to put in his safe at home (for safekeeping). My sister went there the next day and she knew my mom kept her more valuable pieces in a vanity drawer and she found those and I think plans to take them home with her “for safekeeping”. 

Vultures. We’ll see if stuff resurfaces for us to actually divide up. I care because that’s what my mom wanted.

I’m taking a mental health break from the family texting today.

Holy fuck.

They say that blood is thicker than water but that hasn't been the case in my life. Maybe you ought to part ways with them when everything is said and done.

[username]

I think my parents put me as co-trustee with my brother for just this reason. My sister is a little too desperate (and unstable is putting it gently) and my brother has always been a tight fisted borderline asshole. 
The very BEST thing I can do to honor my mom is to first make sure her wishes are followed and ideally without major drama and ruined relationships. 
The law is the law and we WILL follow the instructions in her trust to a gawt damn T.
I’ll knock some heads around as needed. My brother has already been hand slapped about his stupid idea that he could maintain control over some of the money that will go to my sister. I put an abrupt stop to that nonsense.

ETA: Thankfully his musings never made it to her ears. She would have flipped her little lid, lol.

[BigMark]

Now the Adam's family seems normal.

[sally]

The only time my little sister calls me is when she needs money which was today. I normally always give it to her, but I'm sick of that shit. Her ridiculous dream of being a personal trainer and starting an organic juice business didn't work out all that great. Go start a cleaning business and actually do some real fucking work bitch, that's what I did for 20 years. It's really easy, all you need is a car, some cleaning supplies and a cheap ad. She's one of those LBGTQ freaks that thinks everyone owes her something, that's why she's a loser. I think I'll text her a picture of the $30,000 taj mahal quartzite counter tops I just ordered.

[MirahM]

Lol oh boy