HOME FUNERALS

[JsMom]

Mothers & their dead children. This isn't heartwarming to me, it's damn creepy.

The above is not an option for me~ I just couldn't do that.

[heartbreaker6713]

I'm cool with being like a glazed donut if it means I'll never have to do anything with my dead loved one's remains, no cuddling, no picture taking, no lap sitting, no hand holding, no no no touching the dead people.

I am with you on this. I can not bring myself to touch someone who has passed. I have a vivid memory of my mom trying to have me touch my grandmothers and grandfathers hands when I was young (10-14 years old) after they had passed and I kept refusing to the point of leaving the funeral home. she was mad at me saying I would never see them again and this was my last time to have a moment with them etc. I could not bring myself to touch them and even think about them being cold etc even the thought now has me tense and curling into a ball... I just can't!

It's extremely hard visiting family in the hospital when they are sick (elderly) and it's not because I don't love them it's the last image you will remember them as, as someone said. I had a grandmother who was very ill with cancer, outlived dates of expectation for a couple of years when given 6 months, tried experimental treatments, and as she got more and more ill she refused to see family and at the time it hurt badly but now I understand the last image I have of her is her healthy and mobile etc. every other family member that has passed I don't have that image of except for one because it happened so quickly and the others were also cancer and combination of older age. I could never do these home funerals, active scenes, touching none of it. the most reactive funeral I went to was an open casket for a local kid hat was 18 in a town here that want to be a fire fighter, got hit in the chest with a baseball that turned into a lump and just a couple months later it turned into cancer and he died. after that open casket I lost it I decided I couldn't do funerals with open caskets anymore, Ijust don't handle death well at all.

[username]

I didn't know baseballs can cause cancer.

[Duchess]

My feelings regarding dead loved ones is that what I loved is gone, the person is now a wonderful memory and what's left is like an empty beetle shell. I'm pretty clear on this to the people in my life that I care about. There will never be any misunderstanding in regards to it.

[username]

I was stroking my dad's forehead as he died and for several minutes after. My mom came in to the room as he was drawing his last breath (I was pretty sure he was going but I didn't want to stop stroking his head or start hollering for everybody to come up or anything). Besides, I just kept murmuring "it's okay" and "I love you". I wouldn't trade that experience for the world (well I would if he could still be alive!) but he started changing within 5 minutes (temperature dropping and stuff). I certainly wouldn't have wanted to see him hours later or in some open casket. Newp.

[Duchess]

Everything I feel about it right now could fly out the window if & when I'm ever confronted with it. I hope I don't embarrass myself.

[Jimbone]

Apparently you can take it with you...

[Duchess]

Cheap bastards. They are all ones. Pfft.

[heartbreaker6713]

I didn't know baseballs can cause cancer.

I don't believe it was the baseball that caused the cancer. it was just odd it was the same spot, and it happened hand in hand. oddly my dads bestfriend was in a car accident that left a very bad burn or bruise from the seat belt and a couple months later he ended up getting/being diagnosed with lung cancer and passing very quickly because of these odd coincidences my dad is now under the belief that a traumatic injury may spark, if that is the right word, the cancer cells/damaged cells to grow in the injured area.