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[Donovan]

Labeling me gay in multiple successive posts for having chosen a woman with whom to be stranded (after having already explained that choice, which had zero to do with anything remotely romantic, intimate, or sexual ) wasn't gay-trolling? The way I see it, it's the equivalent of what you've referred to as the "lame fag troll", only levied upon a woman. So, your memory either fails you or it's just gender discrimination speaking, IMO.

It is entirely possible my memory fails me. Since I tend to shoot from the lip without a filter in word and writing, I say a great many things I don't recall, mostly of the joke variety. In your case it's likely I made a comment, got a rise out of you and went with it. You have a very polished veneer of happy-go-lucky carefree flowergirl, and it used to amuse me to try to get your mask to slip.

Difference? Did Tiki express a problem with seeing gays showing each other affection? I only perceived her to be expressing animosity towards those whom she perceives to be exploiting homosexuality for their personal agendas (and at the expense of others), and towards those who lecture others about how they should feel about homosexual PDA and other social issues.

We live in a culture where sex permeates every aspect of our television, advertising, and reading, and ALWAYS serves some sort of agenda. The fact that Tiki only gets upset when it's two men kissing instead of the implied hetero couplings of, say, every beer commercial ever made, indicates she doesn't have a problem with pushing agendas unless they offend her sensibilities. The fact that she is an admitted hater of political correctness, otherwise known as social tolerance, and felt the need to throw male homosexual sex references and the word nigger into her original post, gives us a pretty good idea where the offensive material is for her.

Granted, I could have misinterpreted her. In that case, though she's quite the wallflower, she might just call me out and I'll take a licking (yeah, I know, "ghey").

Or trolling. Either way, good for you.

I know a fair amount of lesbians, younger and older than I. Rarely have I seen any of them wearing flannel and never Birkenstocks (for real, even in a district of San Francisco heavily populated with female same-sex couples!). AND, drinking dry red wine is certainly not something that lesbians can be logically deduced to do more frequently than the whole of the diverse and sizable wine-drinking population.

Two things: as one of the few meccas for gay-lifestyle tolerance in the country, San Francisco is both the best example of how mainstreaming can positively affect gay gender identity, and the worst example of instinctive tribal-marker-type behavior in gays seeking acceptance. Your view is skewed because you are in the one place they are free to expand as persons rather than as a "type". In more constraining communities like the midwest and heartland, the tribal identifiers are much more rigid.
Second thing: since the template of suburban gay female is much further along in social acceptance than gay males, and is derived in large part from suburban hetero wives, there is a lot of bleedover. The person identifies with the behavior, NOT the other way around.

AND, if you're right about “antiquing and estate sales” being “gay activities”, then Maggot, Cannongal, Duchess, me, Six... and probably many other male and female mockers are seriously in the closet and don't even know it!

You said it, not me. But if you ever do come out, could you send me pics of you and Username frenching?

Sorry -- I not only think your statements equate to gay-stereotyping, I think they equate to baseless gay-stereotyping.

My statements are sound examples of social anthropology with a little bit of deliberate cliche thrown in for comedic effect. Thanks for ruining the joke by forcing me to explain it though. Gay women=not known for their senses of humor. Look at Ellen.

Let me give it to you straight -- your presumptions don't always hit the mark, and if I weren’t so chilly and getting ready to search out my favorite muffs, I’d dive into a deeper explanation for you.

I had a great and lengthy response all typed up, but then I read the last part, got the weirdest boner, and knocked my computer off my lap. I think maybe I'm a lesbian.