The Crying Game / TRANSGENDER DISCUSSION

[Ski at 1SKY6]

I'm not following you.

It is society that is the source of the individuals dysphoria (a state of unease or generalized dissatisfaction). If society were more inclusive and accepting the pain experienced by the individual would not exist. So the desire to make changes would not exist either. The progress made in gay rights regarding societys' acceptance of our sexual orientation has spared a lot of gays the process of trying to "change" to meet external expectations.

http://roygbiv.jezebel.com/stop-confusin...1583049920

Let's put aside the possibly derailing argument of "there is no wrong way to look like a man and no wrong way to look like a woman" which we often try to advocate in both feminist theory and in trans-queer theory (especially when it comes to removing ourselves from the binary framework), because it isn't helpful here. We need to recognise that gender presentation standards do exist and they are strictly and harshly (sometimes violently) enforced. It's unfair to those with gender dysphoria, especially trans children who we should not expect to be engaged in gender deconstructive discourse at our level, to make this argument in response to claims of gender discomfort. We live in a world with two very strongly enforced boxes, and a great number of us fit into one of those two boxes at least tolerably well, even if the box we are in is not the one we were originally assigned. This is definitely something we need to deconstruct, but for the purposes of this discussion, we need to discuss what is not what we would like to be or we aren't being helpful in the immediate.