WHAT DO YOU WANT ?

[Cynical Ninja]

Guilt is self induced. Seriously, you're complaining about her spending $1,000 on you one year?

I'm not complaining! I'm saying she knows how to manipulate to get her ways. It was an example of the many ways she thinks she gets over on us. I felt bad because we didn't truly go away but pretended to instead.

OP, me and my two brothers are ALL the family she has left. Although she's obnoxious and a brat, I wouldn't leave her alone or totally ignore her. I'm not cold like that. But I'd rather do things on my terms instead of her bullshit preventative manipulation.

Believe me, she's been called on this shit time and again and she will just turn around and insist conversations of the like were never had. She's been like this all her life.

She's more like OP's grandmother. She'll do fucked up shit to get her way because she's completely inflexible and then the next minute she's sweet as pie.

If we had more family to be around and together with, it would be easier to tell her to fuck off for things she manipulates but I just can't be that heartless.

I used to dread going on holiday with my granny when I was a kid, when we first arrived at the hotel, apartment whatever she would insist in cleaning the rooms from top to bottom pissing off the cleaning staff on the first day. Then we had the annual humiliation fest of mealtime, my granny insisted on having meals made individually for her, "I don't want any oil or have it cooked in any oil" in the mediterranean for fucks sake!
So having evening meals in the various 4 & 5 star hotels was a daily ordeal with the whole of the rest of the dining room whispering and pointing at us every night.
She would insist on wearing ridiculously garish, hideous clothes on holiday so bad she would be openly ridiculed in the street by locals and other tourists as I trailed back 20 paces behind her.
My grandfather would get his head chewed off if he even glanced at another woman, you wouldn't speak to fucking dog how she spoke to my grandad how he never lost his temper and struck her is nothing short of a miracle.
Christmas, birthdays and any family occassion seemed to revolve around whether she was in a good mood or not which was very often not the case.
While once dressing a wound on my back she actually made it worse and when I complained she ended up accusing me of being personally responsible for the death of one of her brothers in a motorbike accident a few years previous.
I feel not one ounce of guilt when I say I am partly glad she is no longer around torturing my mother.