WHAT DO YOU THINK ?

[The Antagonist]

Ant, you misunderstood. I did not mean for Duchess to read PMs just cause she can or just to make sure, etc. I would never suggest that. I was referring to people reporting PMs and them coming to her attention. Just like people have reported rule-breaking PMs to me on my sites in the past. I had to take action when someone was harassing, spamming, etc. through PMs. Ant, you assume A LOT when we argue and it almost always results in your error and embarrassment.

So yes, I believe the standard should be that PMs are not be conduits of disseminating personal info rule-breaking material. How well that can be enforced or if that standard should be put in place is not my decision. It was just my opinion, bitch-frog.

I know exactly what you meant. I twisted your words just to show you how YOU do the same to me. Asshole. Sucks doesn't it?

I am not embarrased about a goddman thing. YOU assume more than anyone else. I haven't violated any personal information.

Ant has a hard time differentiating between someone being paranoid and someone feeling that a certain standard would be best for their favorite site, for the long-term. She is more concerned about her short-term emotional needs, Lumpy, etc. while I am more concerned about protecting you, the site, and it staying a cool place for the long-term. Totally frowning upon this personal private info shit can only be good for the site, but bad for the assholes. That is why Ant is all worked up. She is an asshole defending other assholes. It's really that simple, and sad.

And where in my above statement did I stick up for anyone? All I did was call you out on your overemotional response to what was done to you. I have again, never defended anyone, friend or not, saying that posting personal info is OK. I have and I will continue to defend something I feel is right and I've done it with people I like and dislike equally. Prove me wrong on that one.
You could have denied it and taken it to PM as a warning to Lumpy.Your overreaction admitted openly what you didn't want put out there.

As for you protecting me (or anyone else from this past month backward)? I guess when OP blabbed my username that I do business with and then continued for a year to slander me and you said nothing is you idea of protection? You going on and on how untrustworthy I am KNOWING I had links to this site on my business site was protecting me?
I bet if I did some deep digging I may even come up with some things you joined in on as well.

It was his suggestion to make it a rule. You're the admin, you'd be reading PM's for violations. Just more work he thinks you need. At least that was his implication.

You're an Admin., do you take orders from your members ?...Would you take kindly to your members saying you did ?...How would you like it if the preception was that a dude was controlling your every move...Hmmm ?...I am not incompetent, I'm capable of making decisions, good or bad, I take responsibility for them...I'll do what I can & learn as I go, sometimes by trial & error...If there is something I can't do and it needs to be done, I will pay to have it done by someone who does know what they are doing...Give me a fuckin' break here.

Just pointing out the ridiculousnesss of Middle Finger's suggestion.

Now in the spirit of the NEW rules and to continue to enforce the old, I think anyone who does business by another "username" as well as their real identity should not be used to address or use as cannon fodder from here on out. That includes calling Middle Finger by his name as he's allowed everyone to do from nearly day one here. I mean it's too much of an identifier in a lot of circumstances. I've lost enough over this in this vein. (Go on MF - say how I deserved it again)

And to answer your questions about being an admin and dealing with this shit - I've never in all my years of owning sites had to deal with this bullshit. I've never had a site that generated so much animosity and I've never had my members not understand my rules. My rules are quite clear and have never been questioned. I banned one member for racism and that's it. No one has ever been banned for their behavior. No one has ever PM'd me whining about another member and I've never had the report button used on any of my sites.

Middle Finger's mistake opening this site was not protecting privacy with real names and usernames from other sites. But hey, I was an overemotional asshole when I suggested that he curtail that shit before it erupted into shit when I mentioned it to him two years ago, isnt' that right MF?