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(10-24-2012, 04:36 PM)LuciferLynn Wrote: I've never been to a confirmation, so I don't know what actually happens. My kids have never been baptised or anything. I don't have any idea how church ceremonies operate.
Serious question coming from a fellow parent:
Do you regret not exposing your children to church? Do you ever think to yourself, 'It'd be nice to take them, and then when they're older, they can decide if it's for them?'
My oldest I didn't take very much (though he did go to a Catholic High School). I regret not taking him on a weekly basis and exposing him to Sunday School, Wednesday night youth activities, etc.
Just wondering, and if anyone else falls into this catergory (not attending church with kids), I'd like to hear from you too.
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(10-24-2012, 04:49 PM)Midwest Spy Wrote: Just wondering, and if anyone else falls into this catergory (not attending church with kids), I'd like to hear from you too.
I'm educated by nuns, Mass on Sundays & special holidays & catechism class once a week. You see how I turned out.
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(10-24-2012, 04:58 PM)Duchess Wrote: (10-24-2012, 04:49 PM)Midwest Spy Wrote: Just wondering, and if anyone else falls into this catergory (not attending church with kids), I'd like to hear from you too.
I'm educated by nuns, Mass on Sundays & special holidays & catechism class once a week. You see how I turned out.
I heard the nuns liked to pull on ears.
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I never experienced that or seen it done. I have had my hands smacked with a ruler though, for not making my letters in the exact form as the letters of the alphabet. They were to be as precise as the ones on the banner than ran the perimeter of the room. Whenever I recall that it makes me want to kick a nun's ass.
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My son attended a high school run by 'Brothers'.
No nuns in the area, but my wife is certain that the Principal is gay and has a thing for teenage boys.
If the walls of that school could talk...
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(10-24-2012, 05:12 PM)Midwest Spy Wrote: My son attended a high school run by 'Brothers'.
No nuns in the area, but my wife is certain that the Principal is gay and has a thing for teenage boys.
If the walls of that school could talk...
This is what I don't understand about you people. If you're convinced the principal is gay and has a thing for young boys then why do you even accept that thought much less send your kid there, do you think it made him closer to Jesus in some way?
To answer your other question, no I don't regret not subjecting my children to a bunch of ridiculous rituals and superstitious freaks. They can worship God at home if that's what they want to do.
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(10-24-2012, 06:44 PM)sally Wrote: (10-24-2012, 05:12 PM)Midwest Spy Wrote: My son attended a high school run by 'Brothers'.
No nuns in the area, but my wife is certain that the Principal is gay and has a thing for teenage boys.
If the walls of that school could talk...
This is what I don't understand about you people. If you're convinced the principal is gay and has a thing for young boys then why do you even accept that thought much less send your kid there, do you think it made him closer to Jesus in some way?
To answer your other question, no I don't regret not subjecting my children to a bunch of ridiculous rituals and superstitious freaks. They can worship God at home if that's what they want to do.
She didn't tell me until his graduation. Principal has now passed away. No proof whatsoever that he actually acted on his urges.
No one has ever come forward (yet), so it'd be a bit premature to hurl allegations his way.
The kids loved him and, to me, he seemed very accomplished. My wife worked for him for 14 years and knew a different side of him than the rest. I believe if she ever thought our son was in any sort of danger, she would've let me know.
I'm glad you're open to allowing worship time in your home.
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No, I don't regret taking them. As a child, I was forced to go to church and I hated it. Oh how I hated it. Organized religion scares me to death. My youngest reads the bible, my oldest doesn't believe in God. I want them to be able to make their own decisions, what they believe or not.
Just shut up. Just shut the fuck up right now.
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(10-24-2012, 07:05 PM)Midwest Spy Wrote: No proof whatsoever that he actually acted on his urges.
If he had "urges" he shouldn't have been in the position he was.
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(10-24-2012, 08:02 PM)Duchess Wrote: (10-24-2012, 07:05 PM)Midwest Spy Wrote: No proof whatsoever that he actually acted on his urges.
If he had "urges" he shouldn't have been in the position he was.
For sure. Like I said, it's purely speculation at this point.
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(10-24-2012, 08:02 PM)Duchess Wrote: (10-24-2012, 07:05 PM)Midwest Spy Wrote: No proof whatsoever that he actually acted on his urges.
If he had "urges" he shouldn't have been in the position he was.
For sure. Like I said, it's purely speculation at this point.
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I haven't made religious exposure a priority. However, if I could bump it up on the "things to do" list, I wouldn't require my kids to go to church every Sunday (as I was raised) but I would, maybe once a month or so, take them to a church service. And I don't think I'd limit it to one religion. One month, we might go to a Catholic church, another Lutheran, another freaking Buddhist temple. I'd introduce them to different religions just so they'd know what's out there and if anything clicked with them, they could run with it.
My husband never went to church and he's super critical of religion in general. I think while there have been many atrocities associated with religion, it does benefit some people. I'd like to expose my kids to religion without shoving it down their throats but I'm weak. Sleeping in Sunday mornings seems to win out every damn week.
Some of my kids' friends are very religious. I don't necessarily want them to agree, but I'd like it if my kids had an understanding of different beliefs and then could form their own opinions.
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I'm all for my kids studying different religions if that's what they wanted to do, but I'm not into brainwashing them from an early age that they need to belong to an organized religion in order to be moral and accepted by God.
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My son actually chose to be confirmed. The option was there for him not to do it if he didn't want to. My youngest won't even go to church and says he doesn't believe in God. Again, the option is there for him to go with us if he chooses to do so. I do hope at some point he does decide to go with us. I hate it that he doesn't believe in God but I am not going to force him to believe.
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(10-24-2012, 04:58 PM)Duchess Wrote: (10-24-2012, 04:49 PM)Midwest Spy Wrote: Just wondering, and if anyone else falls into this catergory (not attending church with kids), I'd like to hear from you too.
I'm educated by nuns, Mass on Sundays & special holidays & catechism class once a week. You see how I turned out.
Me too Duch. Educated by Nuns, Baptised, confirmed, mass on sundays and holidays. Hell, I even was chosen to stand at the alter and speak in front of our graduating class. I turned out just fine. Twitch, twitch, twitch. A long haired, overweight, beer drinking Biker with a piss poor attitude. LMFAO!
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I didn't grow up going to church. My mom always said "I don't have to go to church to prove to people that we believe in something". I believe in God. I have faith. I don't know the Bible. I won't force anything on my son. If he chooses he'd like to attend a church, I'll take him. He was baptized (I was not). That being said, I like to consider myself a kind, caring, good person. I don't believe a person HAS to attend church to accomplish those characteristics.
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