Infidelity

[Duchess]

Personally, I'd be a lot more hurt over a relationship where there were genuine feelings of caring involved rather than a one night stand...A fuck is just a fuck and can be overlooked, being emotionally involved is a whole new ballgame.

[Liquid]

[color="yellow"]PART 1[/color]
[user=47]Liquid[/user] wrote:

1) if she fucked around on me and did not tell me, I would never know and not think anything was wrong.

You actually believe that, don't you?

[color="yellow"]PART 2[/color]
[user=47]Liquid[/user] wrote:

2) if she fucked around on me and told me we would be done. no questions asked and no make ups. fuck you, get out, good bye
3) if she fucked around on me and I was told about it from someone else and it was confirmed as true, then we would be done, no questions asked and no make ups, fuck you, get out, good bye.

That's it, no questions, no geting to what brought it on, just be done with her and that's game over? No need to see what you may have done to drive her away; why she did it? There is always a 2^nd story to people who fuck around, ya know. ::wait::

RESPONSE TO PART 1 ABOVE -
Well of course i believe that. If I never knew about the cheating, I would not know about it, lol. If she did not tell me, and no one else told me, and nothing changed and there was no reason to think she had cheated, then nothing would be different...obviously

RESPONSE TO PART 2 ABOVE -
Well now you are changing the question. This was never about WHAT may have caused the cheating. This was just about someone cheating on someone else. So going back to your original question and assuming there was nothing unusual with our relationship and things were good like they are now, and then out of the blue she cheated, then yes - she is out and good bye. You never ever ever regain 100% trust once it has been broken.

[LuMPyPussy]

Personally, I'd be a lot more hurt over a relationship where there were genuine feelings of caring involved rather than a one night stand...A fuck is just a fuck and can be overlooked, being emotionally involved is a whole new ballgame.

Yeah, I was just thinking that. Same brain!

[Duchess]

::bravo::

[Sinister]

RESPONSE TO PART 1 ABOVE -
Well of course i believe that. If I never knew about the cheating, I would not know about it, lol. If she did not tell me, and no one else told me, and nothing changed and there was no reason to think she had cheated, then nothing would be different...obviously

That's what all married people would like to think; that if their spouse ever fucked around and didn't "give it up" that they would never know. In a relationship where there is no meaning, possibly. In any relationship where there are two people who truly do care for each other something is going to give the one who cheated away.


[user=47]Liquid[/user] wrote:

RESPONSE TO PART 2 ABOVE -
Well now you are changing the question. This was never about WHAT may have caused the cheating. This was just about someone cheating on someone else. So going back to your original question and assuming there was nothing unusual with our relationship and things were good like they are now, and then out of the blue she cheated, then yes - she is out and good bye. You never ever ever regain 100% trust once it has been broken.

You broadened the question by force. It was a simple subject that came to me earlier when I was doing some running around. Next time I will remember to be extremely and excrutiatingly specific so as to please anal-retentive OCD fucks like yourself. ::thumbs::

[Liquid]

if 2 people are really close and know a lot about each other, I agree that if one is acting strange, or even a little different on a regular basic, then the other will undoubtedly notice and wonder if something is wrong.

And your simple question is not that simple once you start discussing it like we are. If you want simple yes or no answers then that would be boring and you could have just done a poll.

[Sinister]

And your simple question is not that simple once you start discussing it like we are. If you want simple yes or no answers then that would be boring and you could have just done a poll.

A) I'm a bit tired of polls after the bag lady went on a pointless spree of retarded, pointless bullshit threads...
B) The question was meant just as simply as it was stated; it didn't need all this extraneous bullshit about would you or wouldn't you. It wasn't a test of faith or a person's relationship, it was just a question.

[Liquid]

do you have a problem with the extra conversation that is directly in relation to your initial post? It is what makes your initial question interesting. if you look at the other replies and they are basically yes or no, which is somewhat boring.

[LuMPyPussy]

And your simple question is not that simple once you start discussing it like we are. If you want simple yes or no answers then that would be boring and you could have just done a poll.

A) I'm a bit tired of polls after the bag lady went on a pointless spree of retarded, pointless bullshit threads...
B) The question was meant just as simply as it was stated; it didn't need all this extraneous bullshit about would you or wouldn't you. It wasn't a test of faith or a person's relationship, it was just a question.

If you think a movie genre poll is retarded and pointless, you're even more insular than I imagined. Most people find movies interesting and enjoy discussing them. As for the other retarded and pointless polls I started, there were two in the past month or more and you know where you can shove them if you can find yourrectum in that giant, bloatedmushroom you call an ass.

[Sinister]

do you have a problem with the extra conversation that is directly in relation to your initial post? It is what makes your initial question interesting. if you look at the other replies and they are basically yes or no, which is somewhat boring.

Of course not, I just thought that people would give the why's and wherefore's of their opinion, regardless of whether they had fucked around or not. I have no problem with the conversation extending beyond its intended reaches at all.

[LuMPyPussy]

do you have a problem with the extra conversation that is directly in relation to your initial post? It is what makes your initial question interesting. if you look at the other replies and they are basically yes or no, which is somewhat boring.

Of course, Liquid. You're the most interesting person in here with your confused and vaque meanderings around the subject. Asshole.

[Momster]

I could "cheat" if he was okay with me screwing around, and knew about it. But then is it cheating?

[Liquid]

do you have a problem with the extra conversation that is directly in relation to your initial post? It is what makes your initial question interesting. if you look at the other replies and they are basically yes or no, which is somewhat boring.

Of course, Liquid. You're the most interesting person in here with your confused and vaque meanderings around the subject. Asshole.

again you cant stay on topic. You know it might be worth going back to before you first begged to be banned and see if it is YOU that constantly derails threads. It might be.

[Liquid]

I could "cheat" if he was okay with me screwing around, and knew about it. But then is it cheating?

probably more like swinging in that case. if you have permission then not really cheating.

[ramseycat]

I would never and have never cheated.

If my husband or boyfriend was cheating on me I would want to know and I would be upset if my friend didn't tell me. But I would understand the conflict about if she should tell me or not.

If I found out one of my friends was being cheated on, I would tell her. I won't stand by and have my friend made a fool of.

If my husband cheated on me? I don't know what I would do since it has never happened to me. But I agree with Duchess that an affair is a whole different thing from a one night stand.

And just a little tidbit - I have a friend that is married and had two boys. Her husband had a one night stand and got the girl pregnant. He hid that from my friend. His appendix burst and he ended up in the hospital and my friend got the mail one day and low and behold, now she nows. About a month later she finds out she is pregnant with #3. Totally an accident. She really wants a girl and has another boy. Her husband's one night stand kid is a girl. Needless to say my friend is beyond upset.

Another story - another friends husband cheated on her. She found out when she went to the doctor with what she thought was a yeast infection. It was herpes.

[Momster]

I could "cheat" if he was okay with me screwing around, and knew about it. But then is it cheating?

probably more like swinging in that case. if you have permission then not really cheating.

::banana::

[Momster]

I would never and have never cheated.

If my husband or boyfriend was cheating on me I would want to know and I would be upset if my friend didn't tell me. But I would understand the conflict about if she should tell me or not.

If I found out one of my friends was being cheated on, I would tell her. I won't stand by and have my friend made a fool of.

If my husband cheated on me? I don't know what I would do since it has never happened to me. But I agree with Duchess that an affair is a whole different thing from a one night stand.

And just a little tidbit - I have a friend that is married and had two boys. Her husband had a one night stand and got the girl pregnant. He hid that from my friend. His appendix burst and he ended up in the hospital and my friend got the mail one day and low and behold, now she nows. About a month later she finds out she is pregnant with #3. Totally an accident. She really wants a girl and has another boy. Her husband's one night stand kid is a girl. Needless to say my friend is beyond upset.

Another story - another friends husband cheated on her. She found out when she went to the doctor with what she thought was a yeast infection. It was herpes.

IF YOU FUCK A MARRIED MAN YOU ARE STILL INVOLVED IN CHEATING YOU WHORE.

::nuts::

[Sinister]

But I agree with Duchess that an affair is a whole different thing from a one night stand.

See, that's where I change tactics; if they fucked around once, they will fuck around again, it doesn't matter if it was a meaningful thing or a one-night bullshit stand; there is a reason they went in search somewhere else whether it was once or 100 times and I want to know what the fuck it was! ::wait::

[Momster]

But I agree with Duchess that an affair is a whole different thing from a one night stand.

See, that's where I change tactics; if they fucked around once, they will fuck around again, it doesn't matter if it was a meaningful thing or a one-night bullshit stand; there is a reason they went in search somewhere else whether it was once or 100 times and I want to know what the fuck it was! ::wait::

I agree. But I think when the word "Affair" pops into my mind, and emotional attachment is made. One night stand is straight up fucking.

[ramseycat]

Momster, I did not fuck a married man. Did you for one second consider the source of that information????