THE 'WHO'S TO BLAME?' THREAD

[HairOfTheDog]

That kid sat her stupid ass on the road. Her mood, her demeanor, her right to shotgun in mommy's minivan...none of that matters.

I agree. I don't think it matters when it comes to considering "who's to blame" for Trinity Bachmann's death.

It's only been part of the discussion in terms of people sharing their opinions and assumptions as to what kind of 13-year-old would pull such a disrespectful and stupid stunt.

Personally, there's no doubt in my mind that Trinity is at least partly to blame for her own death, and she may be fully to blame. Had she not willfully chosen to plant her butt (fat or otherwise, irrelevant to me) in the road, she'd not have been struck by the 21-year-old motorist's car. To me, it doesn't matter why she planted her butt there -- her death is no less sad because her own disrespectful and bratty behavior culminated in her death.

(IMO, the driver of the other car is partly to blame IF she was driving recklessly -- for whatever reason -- and could have avoided hitting Trinity and her mom had she been driving responsibly.)

She died and it's mom's fault for not dragging her stupid ass out of harm's way.

I think your case against mom is weak, no matter which way you angle it.

Mom didn't put her child in harm's way in this case, but we know that mom was trying to get her daughter out of harm's way when the girl was struck by another car. And, it wasn't like Trinity was sitting there for hours before mom took action. It appears to have all gone down quite quickly. I'm not convinced, based on what we know now, that there is anything mom could have done differently in the middle of the road that night to change the outcome.

I also have no cause to blame Trinity's dad or any other parental figures that may have helped raised her. I don't think Trinity's idiotic tantrum that night, nor her accidental death, means that she was undoubtedly a bad kid and/or a product of bad parenting.

Trinity mighta been a generally great kid with great parents. She mighta been an okay kid with shitty parents. She mighta been an asshole kid with great parents. She mighta been a great kid with asshole parents. Etc... My perspective is the same as blueberry's and sally's and cars'......there's no way for me to judge the quality of Trinity's parentage based on the information available at this time. All I know about her parents at this point is that Trinity's mom had her daughter engaged in Future Farmers of America and in cheer-leading, and Trinity's mom was the parent who spent her night driving a group of teens to and from the fair so they could participate in a school project, and Trinity's mom -- by all accounts -- is absolutely devastated by the loss of her child.