04-06-2016, 10:22 AM
Opinions solicited, especially from the female of the species. Entertain the following situations/ scenarios and give me your honest opinions.
Scenario: suppose a couple hits a very rough patch in a dedicated, longterm relationship, so rough that it leads to a permanent separation of more than six months. Separate households, final breakup, the works. Let's say the man, we'll call him Jonovan, meets a new woman and dates her for three months, a fun and really intense relationship that lacks the stability of the former one but is new and sexy and hot. But inevitably it too breaks up before getting serious. At the same time, Jonovan struggles financially having inherited a number of joint expenses and been laid off from work. He periodically asks his former partner to take him back despite her repeated rejections, even talking to her while dating the hot party girl (secretly of course).
Fast forward six months or so. Party girl is gone. Jonovan is nearly broke with no job in sight. Out of the blue, one of his texts to the ex, we will call her EVA (short for Evil VAgina) is answered that yes, she will consider a serious reconciliation. There is happiness all around, much crying and carrying on, and ultimately they decide to move back in together and give every effort to a longterm relationship.
It is no picnic, of course. Jonovan is still broke and money is very tight. But after Xmas things begin to turn, Jonovan gets a fantastic job tripling his former salary, lots of perks, money ceases to be an issue. The reconciliation progresses not perfectly, but acceptably.
Suddenly, out of the blue, the party girl ex contacts Jonovan asking for a reconciliation of her own. Because she was hot, and fun, and intense, and truthfully dumped Jonovan unfairly, he agrees to go meet with her, strictly for closure.
He does not tell his current partner his plans. He actually lies to her and says he's going elsewhere. He meets with the party girl, tells her how he feels, gets his closure, and ends it. But a week after, he feels so guilty he tells the current partner about the secret meeting, that she would not have known about had he not volunteered his confession.
QUESTION NUMBER 1: what is the appropriate response from the current girlfriend, if she is you? Are you pissed? Happy? Indifferent?
Scenario: suppose a couple hits a very rough patch in a dedicated, longterm relationship, so rough that it leads to a permanent separation of more than six months. Separate households, final breakup, the works. Let's say the man, we'll call him Jonovan, meets a new woman and dates her for three months, a fun and really intense relationship that lacks the stability of the former one but is new and sexy and hot. But inevitably it too breaks up before getting serious. At the same time, Jonovan struggles financially having inherited a number of joint expenses and been laid off from work. He periodically asks his former partner to take him back despite her repeated rejections, even talking to her while dating the hot party girl (secretly of course).
Fast forward six months or so. Party girl is gone. Jonovan is nearly broke with no job in sight. Out of the blue, one of his texts to the ex, we will call her EVA (short for Evil VAgina) is answered that yes, she will consider a serious reconciliation. There is happiness all around, much crying and carrying on, and ultimately they decide to move back in together and give every effort to a longterm relationship.
It is no picnic, of course. Jonovan is still broke and money is very tight. But after Xmas things begin to turn, Jonovan gets a fantastic job tripling his former salary, lots of perks, money ceases to be an issue. The reconciliation progresses not perfectly, but acceptably.
Suddenly, out of the blue, the party girl ex contacts Jonovan asking for a reconciliation of her own. Because she was hot, and fun, and intense, and truthfully dumped Jonovan unfairly, he agrees to go meet with her, strictly for closure.
He does not tell his current partner his plans. He actually lies to her and says he's going elsewhere. He meets with the party girl, tells her how he feels, gets his closure, and ends it. But a week after, he feels so guilty he tells the current partner about the secret meeting, that she would not have known about had he not volunteered his confession.
QUESTION NUMBER 1: what is the appropriate response from the current girlfriend, if she is you? Are you pissed? Happy? Indifferent?
Thank god I am oblivious to the opinions of others while caught in the blinding splendor of my own cleverness.