Would you care...

[username]

If your 16 ¹⁄₂ yr. old kid took up smoking pot? Back when he was freaking anorexic, I sort of wished he would. Now he has. My daughter told me and in fact she tried it...they smoked it out of an apple of all things.

Anyway, I've been wondering (even before she told me) and he's denied it (which bugs me possibly more than the pot itself). He told my daughter he'd like to tell me but he's not sure how my husband would react.

Anyway, at the moment I can't say I know because he'd likely trace it back to his sister which would ruin the tenuous relationship they already have. I'd have to catch him some other way.

But..I'm not sure I care unless he becomes a lazy sloth and there are a few studies that say smoking it while your brain is still developing is a no-no.

I did a hell of a lot worse before I reached 16 though. Dropped acid for the first time at a 7^th grade dance...and look how well I turned out.

WWYD? Anything? Nothing? If he gets busted with even a little bit, he loses all driving privileges for a year. That would suck.

[Duchess]

If he's risking his driving privileges then I have to think he intends to be smart enough not to get caught with weed nor with having smoked it. There's hope in that, right? He won't want to disappoint his parents and he won't want his privileges revoked.

I've been smoking weed since before I was his age. It's always been a non-issue, no trouble, no gateway drug, nothing negative. It's never interfered with my life or with being a responsible, productive individual.

[ramseycat]

I'm not the best one to weigh in here considering the situation with my son. Smoking pot never bothered me as long as he was going to school and it wasn't running his life. I don't consider pot a gateway drug for everyone but for some it is. I'd hate to say it's not a big deal and then see your son end up like mine.

[sally]

That's the age my son started smoking it and like you my daughter told me about it and I couldn't tell him because that would make her a snitch. Then one night I walked in on him smoking it in his room, I didn't make a big production about it I just kinda gave a little speech about how it can damage your brain while it's still developing and you can't do that while you're driving and going to school and blah blah blah. He denied doing it and acted all embarrassed. It's not like I was talking to him about the birds and bees for Christ's sake.

Then I found out he was smoking K2 too because "everyone" smokes it and what's he supposed to say when they pass it around. You say I only smoke real weed, seems like a good answer to me . That I was really pissed off about and did tell my husband. I've heard of kids dropping dead of kidney failure from that garbage.

I'd just straight out talk to him about it when no one else is around. What's the worst that can happen other than he'll say "do you think you can get the fuck out of my room now, mom."

[Maggot]

Eh, I would probably tell him that after 18 he could do whatever he wants but not in my house. I knew my oldest Daughter was smoking weed but never ever said that I did. She kept it on the side and kinda grew out of it. There are a few guys at work (because they are so lame I had to go back) that act like surfer duds and every hour they have to smoke a bowl. I had talked to my oldest Daughter about it and explained the difference between smoking weed for recreation and needing to smoke every day. Today she is 30 and is a nurse. I know she smokes occasionally and that's fine but she doesn't need to smoke every morning to "wake & bake" When kids are young they tend to go with the crowd but if you can get them to understand that the "crowd" could care less if they made it or didn't that, once taught can go a long way in giving them the freedom to decide. After 18 they are on their own and whatever values you have taught them will be the thing that decides their future. Its to late after that, they are adults then.

[Duchess]

I've never been one to wake & bake, business before pleasure and all that bullshit. If I have an entire day off though I wouldn't be opposed to being high by noon.

[afraidforallofus]

Be the adult. Talk to him about it and steal his stash!

[SIXFOOTERsez]

Its kind of a tough call if you look at it the way you posted, however, you need to talk to him about it right?
He apparently has some kind of health issues as I remember from your previous posts and this may or may not help.
If you do not smoke (no idea is you do or not) You should be able to smell it on him. Remember, dope makes you stupid and you think you are the smartest person around. I can't tell you how many employees I have busted for smoking pot, they deny it but I can smell it. Just tell him you smelled it on him the other day and need to talk to him about it, act all shocked if he mentions his sister.
It may or not be a big deal that he is smoking a little pot, make sure he understands whatever risks there are, make sure he is not carrying his entire stash around in his pocket (watch Cops, you will see why).

Like the rest of you I did a lot worse by that age, pot is how I paid for my first car. I managed to come out ok

[HairOfTheDog]

WWYD? Anything? Nothing? If he gets busted with even a little bit, he loses all driving privileges for a year. That would suck.

Since your son has some legitimate health issues on record, you might be able to get him a medicinal marijuana prescription for a strain that focuses on those issues.

I might consider something like that if the pot seems to be helping him keep up a healthy weight and alleviate anxiety where other means have failed. I'd probably prefer that over prescription pills and it would be a way to at least have some control over the quality and quantity he's smoking.

If he's only doing it to rebel and have fun though, I'd tell him truthfully how I felt about it after finding a way to broach the subject, then do what I could to stop him from becoming a lazy sloth or losing driving privileges - even if it meant riding his ass and pissing him off sometimes.

[Maggot]

Be the adult. Talk to him about it and steal his stash!

I like this idea.