Adultery

[Cynical Ninja]

But I guess some of you think it would be better just to keep the old bitch around for laundry and an occasional blowjob and see the younger chick on the side.

Sounds good to me, but seriously though I don't cheat, I don't even put myself in positions where there is an opportunity to cheat, trust is important in a relationship and if a partner cheats on you how are you supposed to trust them after that?, even if it was a one off?

Everyone likes to look and fantasise, but if the need goes beyond that then perhaps you are with the wrong person?

I don't know I suppose there are worse things you can do to people like domestic violence or emotional abuse.

[Cracker]

Interesting that people often jump to the conclusion that the women are the needy ones. Maybe the needy ones are the men that feel the need to have a 20 year old girl on their arm. All three friends are taking it differently..... One is glad to be rid of him but pissed because he is supporting the girl instead of his kids. One is consumed with anger and one is heartbroken.

I know all these guys pretty well and them leaving their families for girls in the same age group as their kids really surprised me. I get it from a man's perspective but its kind of gross to me. I would have been disgusted by a 40 year old man hitting on me when I was 21.

I left my husband for another man. Would you assume he was too needy?

Sooooo, you are obviously supportive of your sorrowful friends.

Here is the secret to life: We don't control anything. Things will work out how they will no matter how much we try to change them.

It's OK to run the gamut of emotions after a loss. What happens next is up to your friends. They can try to enjoy the challenge of a new life or they can mourn the past. Reasonably well-balanced adults should already know this.

You are a whore. Kidding. You decided to change your life. Who can fault you for that if they aren't living your life? Same with the husbands. They decided to change their lives. They maybe should have decided that before they had kids, but most people don't think ahead like that. I bet at least one of the couples will get back together when the 22 year old decides having step kids is a pain in the ass. The wife will have eternal ammunition if she's that kind of person.

I haven't had the opportunity to feel the sting of adultery, but it would be a deal breaker to me. That's just me, though. I'm not the kind to put up with major bullshit. I'm more of the grab the skillet and put the boxes out by the curb kind. I wouldn't even want to hear the bullshit excuse that went along with the bad behavior.

For all you know, these folks had open relationships that went horribly wrong. You never know. I try to stay out of other people's relationships. I lurve gossip and you can call me to bitch for about an hour total, then it's time to move on and do something else.

[sally]

But I guess some of you think it would be better just to keep the old bitch around for laundry and an occasional blowjob and see the younger chick on the side.

My comments only address a one night stand, not a relationship.

Well if both partners have an equal understanding that one night stands are acceptable then I dont see a problem. But it's a different story if your husband is out fucking bar sluts while you think he's working late at the office or vice versa and some dude just fucked your wife in your bed and wiped his nut all over your pillow. That shows no respect at all for your spouse and I don't think I would be so forgiving.

[Cracker]

some dude just fucked your wife in your bed and wiped his nut all over your pillow.

Take all foreign body hair seriously. That is the other secret to life.

[Duchess]

I love making controversial statements.

[Nina]

Interesting that people often jump to the conclusion that the women are the needy ones. Maybe the needy ones are the men that feel the need to have a 20 year old girl on their arm. All three friends are taking it differently..... One is glad to be rid of him but pissed because he is supporting the girl instead of his kids. One is consumed with anger and one is heartbroken.

I know all these guys pretty well and them leaving their families for girls in the same age group as their kids really surprised me. I get it from a man's perspective but its kind of gross to me. I would have been disgusted by a 40 year old man hitting on me when I was 21.

I left my husband for another man. Would you assume he was too needy?

Did you warn the other man you left your husband for that you will eventually be leaving him for another man? That usually turns into a habit yanno...

Actually I didn't word that quite right. Along the lines of what pspence said, I really left my husband because I was very unhappy. But there was another man involved. That didn't work out either because the other man started giving me ultimatums (that I must move in with him) and I wasn't going for that. I am actually quite content being single. I don't feel alone at all. I have a wide group of friends, men and women, and I don't have to deal with anyone else's issues unless I choose to.

I agree with Duchess regarding the emotional vs sexual thing. Under the right circumstances ANY man and most any woman would cheat. A one night stand would not bother me near as much as finding out there was a real relationship.

One of these husbands got caught because he was at a hotel room with his 21 yr old fling and she had to call an ambulance because they thought he was having a heart attack! ha ha ha. Bet that was fun to talk about with her college buddies.

[FAHQTOO]

I get the 1 night stand/emotional thing, but I'm with Cracker on this one. Not going to put up with either one. And...how do you know if it's just a one night stand...because he says so...

If you accept a one night stand one time, then that just gives him permission (in his mind) that it's okay to fuck any barfly that comes his way...as long as there's no emotional attachment.

Most one night stands are going to come from the local hole in the wall bar/night club/ strip joint down the street. And I'm sure the barfly hasn't ever picked anyone else up from the same bar...they just both happened to be at the same bar drowning their sorrows and being each others therapist for a few hours.

I guess I'm the only one that thinks about the probability of catching an STD from a one night stand. In all likelihood, it happened before you found out and you've already had sex with him and then you're just shit outta luck. But being okay with it and him doing it again is just opening up your vagina for a whole host of nasty critters and puss filled lesions.

[Cynical Ninja]

I don't understand the mindset of one night stands being no big deal, to me betrayal is betrayal, but I suppose I am old fashioned and loyal, I don't believe in fucking about while in a relationship, fucking about of ANY kind.

[Duchess]

I don't understand the mindset of one night stands being no big deal

The comment I made about that surely was inflammatory.

[Cracker]

I don't feel alone at all. I have a wide group of friends, men and women, and I don't have to deal with anyone else's issues unless I choose to.


One of these husbands got caught because he was at a hotel room with his 21 yr old fling and she had to call an ambulance because they thought he was having a heart attack! ha ha ha. Bet that was fun to talk about with her college buddies.

I'm at a loss with many of my friends for this very reason. They are desperately waiting for some man to come along and rescue them. That affects how they live their lives. They don't plan ahead with money or plan for their own future. They are just waiting. They put their eggs in the man-basket. It's very hard to convince them that they are living NOW, not just waiting. Independence doesn't come standard, I think, in all people.

Too funny about getting busted in a hotel room. I wish there was video of that!

[Maggot]

If more people would just use the "cutting the egg" technique this shit would not happen.

[cladking]

Unsurprisingly I have a different take on this.

I was talking to some friends yesterday about some new scientific theories that say that most people have neanderthal ancestry as well as two different species of homo erectus. The fact that only humans have 23 pairs of chromosomes might be explicable by the fact that our ancestors just mated with everything that would produce off-spring (at least).

The whole damn human race are a bunch of sons of bitches.

Not that there's anything wrong with that but it's something to keep in mind.

I'm just a little closer to the cave than many people.

[Cracker]

Brow ridge, clad? Super hairy? Animal in the sack?

[WolfHouse]

Hmmmm. From what I have observed, the wife has very little
to do with the man's needing some strange. And he would not
consider leaving her. So the men leaving women for 20 year olds
seems odd to me.

[BlueTiki]

Unsurprisingly I have a different take on this.

I was talking to some friends yesterday about some new scientific theories that say that most people have neanderthal ancestry as well as two different species of homo erectus.

Yup . . .

And the brothers are still hittin' on strange.

I wonder if the hominims, the African sapiens were tapping, had big assess, too?

[HairOfTheDog]

On the other end of the spectrum:

A woman in France just successfully sued her former husband for not having sex with her during some prolonged portion of their 21 year marriage. The judge indicated that marriage vows entail an ongoing commitment to having sex with your spouse if he/she wants and requests it.

The former husband claims he was tired and not healthy. He was fined 8,500 pounds, which I believe is around $12,500 USD.

No mention of adultery in this story. Maybe it should have been a topic of discussion in the marriage if the husband really was physically unmotivated? Or, maybe she's a sow and he considers the fine a small price to pay for getting rid of her. Either way, very bad decision and archaic reasoning by the judge, in my opinion. I don't think adultery should be against law and I don't think not sexing up your spouse should be against the law either. WTF are courts doing in the bedroom's of married people?

I wish we had pictures of this couple. A man paying thousands of dollars not to have sex has me curious...

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-yvonne-...ostpopular

[Maggot]

5 words.............Your not doing it right!